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Hey, native German here. From what I would call a normal middle class background. My family is definitely not rich and I attended a public school in Northern Germany.
So after 10 years living in Berlin, random Berliners like my doctors or shop assistants STILL tell me "oh you must not be from here, you are speaking so eloquently". As soon as I open my mouth (I speak Standard German not their dialect or "slang") I feel this special "pause" and uneasy reactions especially in East Berlin.
Whereas German people from other (West German) places will say "Oh really you are from Berlin?! Normally people from there are so rude".
So be sure it is not only expats having this alien feeling. Generally EVERYONE educated, with manners, normally dressed and polite will be regarded as special and encounter strange reactions even after 10 years!!!
good sex requires emotions. germans are bad with anything not analytical and cold and unpredictable. germans would probably be good with mechanical sex if you make an appointment and tell them exactly how to prepare (Stefan, you'll need to shower, brush your teeth, wear clean underwear that you bought less than 5 years ago...). if you want spontaneity or emotional sex then forget it. that's like trying to get a walrus to write a sonnet.
Probably because that's the only good sex German women can get and the only way to have sex for men without selling your life to some crazy feminist who is going to eventually take them to the cleaners. The children from these unions will fit in very well with Berliners.
Here's a peculiar thing I noticed around the time I graduated from university here. I had many job interviews with big, international companies where my first call would be with HR in Amsterdam or Dublin or London or Paris. They ALWAYS went extremely well. I always told them my salary expectations, which were in my opinion very modest (36000-40000 per year). They would almost always say "oh that sounds reasonable" and then when I had to speak with a local HR person they always tried to lowball me and would say that expecting 36000 is ridiculous. Pretty sure it's only ridiculous in Berlin.
Nope, It is everywhere in German. It is no possible to earn base net monthly salary around 3000 or slightly over If you are foreigner and have Stufe 1 Tax class. They always find something not to give you payrise. I know a person who is in his mid 40s now. We completed the master studies together and he was almost 40 when he first came to Germany. He has experience, professional respected certifications and so on. He has been working for around 2500€ net per month. He works at very big well known company in IT doing some kind of technical work. If he would go somewhere else, he could start workin as manager. He will be leaving Germany soon. The internet is full of, can I have good life with 50000€ brutto in Germany (for Munich, Berlin, Düsseldorf etc) posts from foreigners. Germans say It provides you "good life" but we all know the "good life" standards of Germans. In this country, you have to decide between being antisocial(not travelling even inside of EU, not going out for clubs etc) and being broken at the end of month as you try to enjoy your life in Germany with that supposedly "good" salary, you would strugle to put food on table and keep the roof on the top of your head. Don't get me even start talking about rocket high rents for some "bad" flats.
Also, there is no career progression in Germany regardless how good you are (as foreigner of course) I am looking forward to leaving this country for better opportunities after pandemic. The sole good thing about Germany is, If you somehow managed to work here, It is good stepping stone for other countries.
It’s amazing how many people in Berlin are literally doing nothing with their lives and only went to Berlin to take drugs and party. No talents. No interests/ambition. Just avoiding life.
what's up with these propaganda videos on youtube about germany from these expats living in germany and praising it. i think they get paid for that.
What I understand least are the random Germans who go on those pages and talk to foreigners/gaslight too in the comment section. Why are germans so obsessed with foreigners?!?!!? That they feel the need to do this. I live in an actual multicultural society and the last thing I would do would be searching “how to move to canada” and telling foreigners that they interpreted things wrong, or something. The fact to search for those videos wouldn’t even occur to me, nor would caring if people are foreign. Everyone is foreign here and I never even thought about it - well until I went to Germany and noticed the local population constantly obsessed about where other people are from
before I moved to Berlin, a friend said "Berlin is still Germany" and "this is not a good time to move to Germany". Another said "there isn't any money in Berlin". Why cant people just explicitly warn others without these vague statements? Wasted two years of my life.
another said they left because "sometimes its time to stop partying and get adult jobs".
I mean to be fair, I didnt think of these things at the time. It was only after the fact. this is why I wish however people sat down and talked me about it more. IF I knew i would have so much trauma and difficulty recovering financially I wouldnot have gone!!! I am no longer there, but I am still paying for it by a maxed credit card and let me tell you, the only reason I was able to leave was because they gave out grantss which I am definetly not paying out. for this reason, corona saved my future.
people are to timid to express themselves properly. If a friend would ask me I would say ''alright if you want to fornicate up your life, move to berlin, it will be the worst decision you ever made''. but people are scared of talking bad about germany because of the propaganda. try it here and people will act like you said the worst thing possible.
If you tell people how bad this place is they won’t believe you. It will be seen as a bad experience only you had but generally the place isn’t bad.
When I tell people from the UK about what is going on in this country they compare it to problems in the UK. They don’t have the insight into the massive gap between Germany and UK when it comes to everyday life.
people say "berlin used to be good". but was it?
5001, a new milestone. Although, I'm surprised it's not 50,001
Ever notice how Germans have different standards for anything non-German than for German stuff?
Just an example. Sometimes at work I'll grab a burger and fries at lunch and eat in the office since all the restaurants are closed. The Germs ALWAYS manage to lecture me about how unhealthy it is and how there aren't any vegetables. Mind you, I do this like once every few weeks. But they ALWAYS say something. But then they'll turn around and also eat complete poop for lunch like currywurst mit pommes or whatever. Are these people all just nazis down to the bone?
You don’t get it, you don’t have the right to have standards in Germany bc they just expect you to obey them. Honestly I never once talked back to a German and the reason being, because of all their crazy laws. But when I visit Berlin I will have no problem talking back. I’m sick of being trampled on. But if I lived there. No. Because, foreigners don’t get the same rights . That’s why they harass us. They know they can get away with it and we will not do shit. But also there are so many pathetic approval seeking foreigners who will eat the poop under the guise of the Germans “helping them adapt to the culture
Berlin is a strange city. People mature ten times slower but age ten times faster. I guess that’s what a diet of cigarettes and speed will do to your face and brain
First they said it would be only for one month but now they want to extend lockdown till March (or maybe more). It is just terrible! At least they could open fitness studios, the only thing that helps me not to fall into depression. The weather sucks to do anything outdoor!
Yeah, don’t worry about the people catching the virus. Maybe if you catch it you will be ok. Maybe the next person will end up in the ICU. That what makes COVID-19 so dangerous. You don’t know how your body will react to it. Stop being selfish! Use your freaking head.
Seems like if you treat women nice here they lose respect for you ? Whats up with that? Now I'm not interested in sex and dating at all, I couldn't care less. I keep these women at a good distance and couldn't care less in interacting with them. They turned me into a German guy haha don't get me wrong I dont hate them or anything, they are just a pain in the ASSSS
To the above comment, what do you mean they are 'boring'? I am not feminist in any way but just wondering because most of them have good education, work and seem to enjoy various hobbies. I have been to some parts of the world where women did not do anything but engage in household chores. However, I also agree they appear too focused on 'female issues' or 'male privilige concept' ignoring the fact that men suffer from different types of problems such as suicide, loneliness, addiction and depression far more than women do
It’s not because of feminism. It’s because of germanism. They always want to control everything and shout all the time. They’re hard to please and not fun at all unless drunk. Before we broke up, I’d make sure she was drunk before we went to bed. Otherwise it was a nightmare
This is what I was getting at, their victim mentality:
"However, I also agree they appear too focused on 'female issues' or 'male privilige concept' ignoring the fact that men suffer from different types of problems such as suicide, loneliness, addiction and depression far more than women do"
You didn't mention the wage-gap myth, the doctored statistics of domestic violence, etc etc etc. Feminists have no credibility anymore. When I was young, women wanted to be good mothers and homemakers first, before corporate etc aspirations. They knew what was important. They've bought the mantra that Work Makes Freedom.
I'm not saying they can't have a career, but if that career is going to mean they send their babies to day care centres, that is WRONG. The only reason the people behind the curtain pulling the levers fund feminism is because their job is to keep women angry to buy the mantra that Work Makes Freedom, to buy more crap and pay more taxes, it has nothing to do with equality, women are suckers and 5% at most actually enjoy their jobs.
Has anyone experienced gay sex in Berlin or Germany? If yes, how was It?