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Berlin is really like “dating down” except for your future
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
I don't think you can edit. Anyway, don't delete, this is a worthwhile story to share. Go MGTOW, you'll never be happier. Modern women are trouble with a capital T. Selfish, narcissistic, crude, greedy, they don't even want to bond with their babies in their formative years, career comes first, they're egotistical, as you say, ruthless, users, gold-diggers, never satisfied, fickle, want everything their own way, use emotional blackmail, emotional torment etc etc etc etc. Be honest, if men didn't have procreative hormones rushing through their brains, why would any guy want to be saddled with an hysterical modern female. I fell into the trap myself, but now i've gone MGTOW I'm happy-as-Larry, I love every day of my life.
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
It really doesn't matter. It's just a general perspective.
Actually this is mot why I hate Berlin.But the horrible relationship with my Geman Ex.I met this German Ex at my workplace as my colleague.We lived together and we talked about making family.But when I got eventually pregnant,he changed his mind and left me.He was even very angry because he is too young to be a father,he is 26years old,and paying the Alimony for 18years.What????
Then he blocked me and behaved just passive aggresive. We made no conact at all since November at my 6weeks of pregnacy.But in February he sent me an Email and said
"I am so sorry.I was immature.I want to raise our baby in love.Lets love each other in a different way as our child's parents..Please contact me back".
For the baby's sake I contacted him back.
But again he was passive aggressive as before,we had an arguement at the end of March and he blocked me again.
And last week I received a message from his mother(yes his mother.not from him directly)She said
"My son is in a relationship now and his new partner.She gave birth a son 2weeks ago.They are family already and live together already.He will adopt this son too.Therefore please consider to register your baby as Father unknown because my son is not interested in you and the baby anymore.He has new family now and happpy.Your baby will not be haapy to have a father who is not interested in her and ignore her".
What do you think and can you understand any of them ?and any part of this situation???
Duck that old german bitch!! This is absurd!
A baby is not a disposable and something you lose interest into like an old toy!
This female dog even pretends she knows what would make your baby happy!
Like they freaking know everything!
I am sorry for ranting, this is a situation that must be difficult as hell and I am sorry you are going through it.
This is all up to you now, not her and frankly not even him it seems. Although misery will hunt the crap out of him until rest of his days for abandoning his child like this, I am telling you!
Now think about yourself and the baby‘s benefit. As a single mom you will get a better settlement with the authorities, I‘d think, probably more support than counting on this asshat.
Also, consider if you want him in your life, your kid‘s life or not.
Frankly, you can still find a loving partner and have a beautiful life with someone else for yourself and the kid. He doesn’t have to be a toxic piece of crap forever Push-Pull in your life like that.
Take this decision based solely on what you think it’s best and what you want for you kid.
The old hag cares about his offspring not to be legally bonded and forced to pay alimony, I‘d rather say... more than anything.
But if it’s a better deal/support for the kid, squeeze the poop out of him, under his mother’s loving eyes.
Anyhow... fornicate that bitch. Do what you feel it’s best! Focus on thing that actually matter: You, the baby.
Thanks a lot .You know my due date is end of June And the mother of his Ex has four kids.She should have known how I feel if I heard this.The father of my baby is happy with his new partner and her new born son...If the want to keep it secret why now??If they want to tell it.Again why now? Why not earlier and ehy contacted me??And he is 26.What is doing both of them.I had a baby from 16years old boy or what??I am so devastated...
I did.Idid.Well it was good in the end because I could see that he would be abuse my baby because I saw how he react when I told him I am pregnant.But I nevee expected he and his family would do such a thing to me.Yes find new woman(while he said he is too young to be a father started dating a pregnant woman who at least in her 5months of pregnancy ?)and yes his mother.Like Typical Germans.No empathy and actes as if she knew everything what is best for my child because they are Geeman and in Germany this might be "Normal"..
most of german famiies are disfunctional.I don't rhink my mom will act like that if her son is acting like the Ex.And always This Geizig...Germans..Not want to pay Alimony..And yes Kindeegeld until 25 so he still acring like Kind...
Fxxking shit!!!!, these people in Germany are completely 100% insane. As one poster said make sure you keep all the emails as proof. Fxxk him and his mother. What man has his mother speak for him, anyway? Don’t fall to the emotions of pity but anger and retribution. Make sure without any hesitation you get that little punk for child support. Don’t worry, the Germans courts will be on your side for this one. The other poster is right you should cut off all communications with those fools. Your story has pissed me off!! These Germans are extremely wicked people they are capable of anything. I’m sick, I hate that I ever came to this place. Please hold strong and handle the situation for you and your child then move on from this experience.
I find die Mutter disturbingly psycho!
Don‘t reply to her, don’t bother giving her a reaction. That’s how these demons feed, when they can intimidate. Don’t offer that!!
For the sake of your own healing, get away from these psychos!! Get a legal agreement in the child’s best interest, and cut all emotional aspect out of it. Reserve it for someone worth the time...
I wouldn't trust any woman in Berlin telling me she's pregnant with my baby, the first thing I'd ask for is a paternity test. Why the F did you get pregnant to a creepy German, FFS, that's what marriage is for, a bond, security, commitment. Young people these days are fvcked in the head, grow the fvck up and have some responsibility for your lives.
When a German does something you will not get an apology, the speech with go somehow: I am not pleazed vith diz, I feel nicht gut to hear, you must be vrong, I feel nicht gut, you are bad, you should apologise to mich now!! You: No, actually I am pointing out politely a situation that you caused. German: Na klar, then vi are beide bad!! No one, especially an äuslander can call me out! Ich mag das nicht. You make me feel nicht gut!
And theeeen... You will be the bad guy & the frickin‘ Fritz a victim... regardless if he almost smashed your skull open while trembling into you without caring.
This is a metaphor for all interactions that require an apologetic behaviour of any kind that inflicted either physical or emotional harm on another fellow human.
Haha.I am the who wrote about the horroble ex and his family Yes they are so.So true.
Adding to the below discussion "They also body slam you on road for an ego boost":
Yes they do!!!
And they love to do it to other Germans as well (I am half German NOT raised in Berlin).
I have experienced the aggressive mumbling thing 3 times within the last week, all times dressed a little "above Berlin average" (which in this place means outfits like a coat, simple sunglasses, or a dress).
One of those who mumbled was a guy clearly on drugs, one a girl my age and one a girl with her bf. Although I speak German I didn't get what they all said but I got that it was no greeting, no sorry for standing in your way or no have a nice day (doubt if anyone here ever says that lol).
The girl clearly started whispering her sentence saying "She ..." as soon as our ways crossed so yes whatever this f* w* said was about me.
It happened to me so many times I am so sick of it!!!
Berlin taught me something important. Ultimately, if you chase youth you will eventually get older. So there needs to be a point where you make something of yourself. The only people who can truly make a good living in Berlin are German, unless you happen to be an anomaly. Everyone wants to live in a free country. Unfortunately many countries are corrupt including (shocking) Chermany. For this reason, most people who are foreigners that are going to Chermany are chasing something, they have ambition, until they get crushed by the state. Then obviously you have those that just move to Chermany to party. Either way, we all get older. Sure we can chase the fun times in Berlin but where will that ultimately lead us? Do you see what I’m getting at here? There is no balance.
Sorry to ramble also. I’m not the reciepts guy but I hope you can all follow me. There is no point in chasing the addiction of living in Berlin when anyone in their right mind can see that your life ends up going nowhere if you stay.
I have an incident in Zoo. I'm a girl, and returning from school. A bunch of guys, (I think 6 or 7) where seating on these benches, close to that bridge that leads to Morgenstern. I was passing in front of them, and they shouted, then one of them asked if I wanted to marry him, and said something to others, and were laughing altogether. Sexist losers! Dont they have anything to do with their miserable lives?!
The dudes here are absolute clowns for sure. They have the mentality of 5 years old here. No respect for women or anyone else for that matter. Fools here don’t know how to have a normal decent conversation with a female with stuttering. Thirsty looking losers without any goddam personality. German men and the imported Turks here are dull and stupid. As a man I’ve seen a lot of things that are just wrong. Women are human too there is no need for harassment and stupid comments. Besides, this place is poop so there is no surprise the people are poop too. fornicate em all.
A lovely Russian female friend of mine told me when she first moved to our neighbourhood, on her way home one night, some Arab boys said "show us your pvssy", so she put her bags down and said, "sure, no problem" and started to lift her skirt up and they ran away.
If someone starts clinging/dating you who has lived in Berlin a decade and still not accomplished much, beware. Red flag!!!
Either I am hallucinating, shizophrenic and plain paranoid or these bastards really mumble insults and do weird growls why I am passing by, I experienced this over a hundred times. Am I alone there or someone else here that is experiencing this too?
My neighbours used to blast subwoofer everyday even tho I warned them multiple times, landlord wouldn’t fix the problem, I eventually used corona as an excuse to ditch and keep the deposit (not pay rent the last two months) out of retribution for the mental torture I had to endure.
They do it on purpose, harassing foreigners is as ingrained in their culture as drinking a beer after work and not ventilating rooms
ive also noticed that they cough when they pass you. Sometimes i think i make them uncomfortable but i dont know if its because they think i am attractive and are jealous or if they think i am unattracrive. It makes me feel unattractive but i actually think it is because they are jealous somehow
I miss my friends in Berlin but I don’t miss Berlin, what to do
I know everyone’s lives go to poop in Berlin, but have you seen someone’s life REALLY implode before your very eyes? Share your horror stories
I never saw a massive implosion in Berlin due to most people under 30 being trustafarians. They were all "photographers" who had top of the range Leicas (saw many M10s and even a film Leica M-A) or designers who made terrible Wordpress sites for friends starting businesses which were gonna fail. None of em and I mean none of em did more than five hours of meaningful work a day. This was ten years ago and sadly, they haven't really changed. They still think everything is expensive and survive on €1.50 Helles.
Imo this is worse than an implosion. They have literally wasted a decade of their lives doing absolute bs when they could've done anything else.
I wish my parents had paid for my life In Berlin. I would have gotten somewhere. But actually I don’t because I have some self respect. What kind of losers milk their parents so they can party and pretend to be bad ass. Pathetic. Literally use your privilege to help anyone else
So I have several gay People at work and chat to them every now and then! They all moved here for good, from Italy, Brazil, China! All of them claim in Berlin and only in Berlin they could finally be free, for them its paradise! I told all of them for me it’s the opposite! They couldn’t understand me.. or a non gay person in the first place
I have a rule that I live by. If I like you and I think you are cool, intelligent or whatever.
I never ask you if you like Berlin. Because if you do and you begin talking all that garbage I will admittedly cut you off. The matter of Berlin being broken up is not subjective.
The thought of placing my John Thomas in another man's sewage outlet makes me shudder. And walking around with a superior attitude is also a big turn-off, as well as the affected voices, the indiscriminate sex in toilets and parks, etc etc etc. One of the reasons I left Berlin was to get away from people whose main identification is what they do with their penisses and pusssies, what a bore, but then again, it is Borelin after all.
I’m a guy who likes guys and hate that filth ridden city. Being ‘gay’in Berlin (or actually globally as well) is a lifestyle. People identify themselves via their sexual preferences and exploit them. Whilst doing this they also blame others for being prejudice against ‘gays’ although they themselves are a walking and talking prejudice.
Berlin claims to be open-minded but I experienced more hostility here than back in my home country. I don’t feel free here, in fact I feel the opposite. My home country is more conservative, yet, it is a lot more free than this sewer.
funny how people in this city seem to magically have disposable income but are "so poor" and "definetely do not have parents supporting them as adults" and miraculously do not work.
Berlin is a weird place and only place where I have seen adults in their 40s, unemployed, unable to pay their own rent, responsible for their needs and so on... But at the same time principled AF to work a simple job at least...
That being acceptable and accepted.
For me, this is just repulsive, and I find these bugs just worthless human residue, but that’s not allowed to say out loud.
We must tolerate and be empathetic to them. Mniuuu mniuuu mniuuuu