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I think of people where I come from and how we try to keep positive attitudes, and how it's okay to find joy in all kinds of simple things. Here I am judged for joy in simple things. The response is, "WHAT'S THE POINT?!" "What does it matter?!" So German. Always, "what's the point, what's the point?" Until you feel you have to agree there is no point to anything. I used to be the kind of person who was happy from, I don't know, picking some flowers or making a really good sandwich. Now I feel vaguely guilty and stupid enjoying these things.
C O R O N A N E W S:
which blues singer from Dublin doesn't want her friends and fans to know :
A) she's got it.
B) HOW she got it
C) how LONG she's been spreading it?
Somehow just realized I probably could have made a killing in Berlin selling my poop to German perverts. A lost business opportunity
As a side note: Germans don’t like or understand lingerie. They only like cheap plastic outfits or leather. Yes. You heard it correctly. Germans see lingerie as being pointless. They don’t understand the aesthetic or why you would pay so much for it. There is something deeply wrong in that culture. Everything is upside down / backwards
Dear friends who have lived in Germany / Berlin for more than 5 years: how do you manage to stay sane and not feel inferior in this place? Im tired of trying to stay positive while surrounded by so many evil, crazy, and xenophobic people. How do you do that? Im desperate
You have to keep a emotional and if possible physical distance from these people. Don't give them the time of the day.. You have to understand that these people aren't and never will be superior to other cultures on this planet. They are not and I repeat absolutely not superior. Most of them are cowards and will not fight for themselves or people near to them or family, they fornicate them selves over and all the people around them.. They try to keep you down at a low energy level to make them think they are superior. Never ever let them keep you down and suck out the life of you like vampires that most of them are.Your life is valuable and you as a human being can never ever allow anything to keep you down, remember that everything that makes you feel like sh*it is straight out evil.. And if anybody anywhere gives you the feeling you are not worth anything is straight evil and from the devil..Sounds crazy but that's exactly what it is and you have to fight with everything you got in hand.
OP, let me give you some insight. I moved here in my early 20s for a relationship. No degree, no Ausbildung, just regular secondary school. Got my first job here and was made to feel like an idiot every day. In Germany, if you don't have a degree or AT LEAST a 3-year Ausbildung you must be a complete moron. I spent several years walking around feeling like a freaking loser, feeling like if I lost my crappy job I would never find another one, feeling like a third-class citizen. When people would ask me what I do for a living or what I studied I'd feel flush and embarrassed and had trouble answering. And I was entirely excluded from university here because Germany refused to recognize my non-EU secondary education.
So I worked my butt off, collected enough certificates to go study. Got a BA and immediately after got an MA. Graduated on time (about 25% of the people in my program managed to do that). Got German citizenship right before I graduated. Felt like I was finally in control of my destiny, like I was a full-fledged citizen here.
Then I was given a stark reality check by Germany. Impossible to find a job with my degree. Hundreds of rejections, dozens of interviews where I got ghosted. Finally got another crappy job, one much like the one I was fleeing before I went to university. Surrounded by Germans with no degree and no Ausbildung. People much stupider than I am but with a vapid kind of arrogance in making really bad suggestions. But too dumb to realize that having a firm position on something does not mean you're smart.
That's just my long way of saying don't even bother trying to play their poop game. As a foreigner you'll never succeed in anything here. Decide for yourself that these people are cancer and that their opinions don't mean shit. Get out as soon as possible. You're going to enjoy your life somewhere else more. Germany has an illness that can never be fixed.
Hard to believe this is “the best economy in Europe”. I feel like I’m in a third world country. I imagine frankfurt is completely different but Berlin is a ghetto
Some inspiration: Getting an idea about view-angles. Look to the side and notice how much you can see behind you. Look at your phone and notice how much you can see in front of you. Look straight and check how much you can see to the side. It makes it easier for example to say "Excuse me" when you realized someone already saw you. While they might just be a bit paralyzed. But you won't then say it as if they havn't seen you. Just a good thing overall to do. Another thing: Actually take a moment at home, to see where is the place for the wagon and where is the place where you go through, in a supermarket. Trust me it will come in handy. It's not about being about details. The less irritation, the more flow you have. So you can see to take serious such things. Which doesn't mean to be overly stuff or serious. It just means to take something serious. It can feel so good if you felt to catch 1 pasta that was about to fall into the sink because you felt so and then did it like you werew saving a penalty in a football match. This about going with your feel. It is meant to be such a seemingly meaningless detail. It is a moment of aliveness. It is a big problem to not go with one's feel and one gotto take it serious aka not take it not serious. It's all easy and good and especially it's joyful and exciting. There is always these moments throughout a day.
Another inspiration: If you had a really rough and annoying doorbell and someone (post) rings longishly and you were in your thoughts and now you lost your train of thoughts and feel angry. What do you do? 1. Express your feel. How do you do it? By opening the door 3. How do you open the door? Hit it back long? No, that would only make someone's day who knows the doorbell is like that and it is not how your feel expresses. You mean to say RING IT SHORTER!! Right? that's your feel. So you would open the door shortly. If the person manages to open the door in this short time (that equals your feel) they likely were expecting you to be pissed off about it. I had one say thank you to me, in this shit-friendly way (it was hearable from downstairs) which was clearly something the person already knew she would say, since she did not take my feel into account. To even see! that you can express how it made you feel...Because it might appeared like opening the door would be the complete opposite of that. :)
Eh, whatever. Here is another one. When somebody tells you to put the card, into the thing where you put the pin, don't take it out before the person will obviously tell you or you will take it out at the same time that they tell you which feels stupid. But you gotto feel that they will do so. It looks like this: you'd be looking into the air. That's how you feel dignity.
I wrote it a bit abstract, I couldn't really say what it really is. Because of course, you don't stare into the air. It has a meaning, it has sense. It doesn't feel like taking it out when you feel the person will comment over it. That is simply the sense, that's what I mean. In my mind I saw this is not understood by many while everyone knows the feel surely. Just trying to inspire you (not so good at that). I mean see it for yourself, I'm not writing any shi.t here. Dignity is dignity. Or go ahead and take it out when the person tells you if that feels cool with you. Good. Do it.
But I think I was actually pretending to be in my thoughts. It was not communicated to the other one. I think this is how it expressed. While it was not a lie. It's hard to tell what it actually was. ...Yeah now I have it. It's the only way to express it because it expresses anger about being looked at as stupid. The person should never believe you were in your thoughts. But yeah, some say these things also just friendly and then it doesn't feel dumb. You know this is way better than going like You think I'm fu.cking stupid, that would give a lot of credit. And I'm not saying to see the other one as an opponent. So yeah, as you can see it wasn't easy to put into words. So keep your feet calm. It's just some inspiration, it doesn't have to be perfect.
I did then get the receipt, she was handing it to me while wishing me a nice evening. Somehow she knew I wanted to have it (irony), while I really did hahaha :), Idk why but I felt I spontaneously wanted it, felt like it. Felt like I wanna check some things cause it cost a bit more. Just forgot to wish her a nice evening too, but she didn't mind :)
I just went shopping. The energy outside is unbearably evil. What's wrong with the place ?
The ancient Sumerians believed that the afterlife was a miserable, dark, gray existence in an underworld where the people ate dust and gradually faded away into wisps. Berlin holds a lot of looted Sumerian treasure. Think of that next time you are chomping down on some tasteless imitation of international cuisine, no one has smiled at you in you don't know how many days, and the grey clouds haven't shifted for even longer.
Put simply, everything annoys me about them, Germans. Here is a list of my 'of the moment' pet peeves:
- The way they talk with High rise terminal inflections. They talk in lists, because the language dictates that the verb comes at the end, so you have to listen to the very last word. Irritating
- The language is a minefield and sounds like ar3e, it does not flow and they do strange things with their mouths like a monkey to make the sound. the grammar is horrible and the presicion leave no room for ambiguity... which is the issue I take with teh culture... no room for ambiguity and personal interpretation... always this is X and that is Y. Because that is the way it is and do not question it ... we are right and our culture is very successful
- Their need to reinterpret whatever you have said and reformulate it to their own pigeon holed idea of the world... i.e. reductive
- When you say one thing they need to say it back to you... eg. you say 3rd floor... "3er Etage" and they will say "3er Stock?". It feels like they are correcting you
- Which brings me to didactic behaviour. Dogmatic
- Childish mentality. The need to show off that they are open parents and failing to exert any discipline because generally showing consideration is not done here
- casual, subtle or overt racism. Mentioned I was going to live in China for a year and get met with mocking asian voices/accents and making their eyes slated with their fingers... they were in their 50s, not children btw
- name tags on doors, no privacy
- saying Disnay
- inability to pronounce the A in anything. It isn't eppel it is Apple
- obsession with Bio / organic themed whatever and scorning, which is in general their smug attitude
- criticising foreigners and enjoying it, yet being the biggest hypocrites
- never accepting they could be wrong
- no one can empathise, they only think of me me me
- speaking before thinking
- shouting and barking, rather than negotiating or critiquing
- their only joy is taking pleasure in other peopples misfortune or even suffering
- jealousy, esp of a foreigners life/status
- no value for beauty and aesthetics, but the few who do are so arrogant and elitist about it
ugly buildings, landscapes, dimensions... doors are all strange sizes and the shapes of things are all 'off', never cute or quaint... just practical and like a factory...
- allergic to curves and circles in their designs, it is always square and straight lines
-the standardisation of anything designwise... which extends to shopping
- the horrible packaging and logos
- the ugly flat colours... that eagle on the passport... the word Deutsch...eugh
I have said my piece... for today! This is a miniscule fraction of all my thoughts about their shortcomings. No nation is perfect but this one is particularly unlikable.
an old ossi grandad riding his bike with german rock music blaring out the back. Mir fehlen die worte.
The way their expression and behaviour towards you changes as soon as they hear a foreign accent. Not all of them but most of them. Its like you are less than human.
They are neurotic, insecure, and fearful... terrible combination. Hence the need to cut people up, push in front and other opportunistic behaviour. Only thinking of number 1. You sad, pathetic, lonely, empty and damaged people. When you finish your meal in a restaurant and are just in the process of getting up they run over and jump into the seats for fear of someone else getting there. Think towels on sunbeds at 7am re resorts they are sharing with brits and others. In the UK we are taught to suppress childish selfish behaviour at home and at school. Probably the same in other countries, presumably. Whereas here the parents set this example and the cycle continues. Pushing in queues/running to a seat on public transport. R u n n i n g. At school we were taught not to run anywhere in public spaces to avoid danger. Now I have my pride to not run to a seat shamelessly. These plebs have NO shame. Savages. How about having pride in being a gentleman or lady and accept you win some you lose some re getting a seat. UK society is also somewhat broken like many places but there are still some codes of decency remaining, like not interrupting, not asking rude questions, saying please and thank you, not being impertinent to those you do not know asking ridiculous questions about their culture/ putting down their culture the moment you meet them / opening a door to a stranger / smiling and giving a friendly vibe to strangers or those providing hospitality / saying sorry or excuse me when bumping into someone and the list goes on.
Everything is completely correct. One more thing: You know when you're at a bakery or an imbiss and the salesperson turns around and doesn't know who was there first (because Germans don't really know how to for a proper line)? I can't remember a single time in Germany that a person has willingly admitted that he or she got there last and let me go first. Where I am from it would be considered EXTREMELY rude to be that opportunistic. This country is stuck in a post-war eternally adversarial mindset. German society is a zero-sum game. It's not like that elsewhere.
It gets worse though. I remember several times on the train where I have seen disabled people waddle over to the "disabled section" and rudely tell people to get out of the way. I accept the fact that some people need those seats, but you can say it without being rude. It's not like people sit there on purpose to make disabled people angry. German trains are just always crowded. If a German ever tries that with me I'll just not move. I have a feeling that they've never even considered people can react any other way.
I would punch a German in the face but I think they like that. That’s why they secretly try to rile you up, it’s their way of flirting and they go home and jack off to it. Why BDSM is so huge here
Good Lord, all locals are dumb here? Today noon I went to a well-know salad chain to get a salad. I ordered my salad and a middle aged German lady too. The waiter shouted that the salads are ready. Dumb woman picked up mine before I reached the counter. (I ordered beef, she ordered chicken no way to confuse) I told them beef salad is mine. She have it back and said she thought they're the same?? The waiter shouted at least 2 times chicken and beef you stupid woman???