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People can be pretty crazy here. They walk in the middle of the street or block the way and not care at all and still make one feel like the bad guy. It's those passive aggressive fleas that are the result of not being assertive and expressive and it leads to provocations and all that nonsense happening by itself. And the problem is in not perceiving rude behaviour after a while or getting used to being passive aggressive thinking it would be assertive when it though just feels very lost and provoked which makes it easy for somebody to be disrespectful and then on top of that letting out when one didn't perceive the rude act and instead is wondering how in the world did that all work again.
You wake up .have a shower ,put on your clothes ,start your day ..
You hope that somehow your day could go normally ,without aggression ,without someone shouting screaming ,pushing ,shoving ,insulting or generally acting like a 3 year old having a tantrum ..
So you keep your optimism ,you stay positive ready to face a new day ,new challenges ,,
You hope the happy smiley faces you have seen on B.V.G. pictures will be true ..
You hope all the positive imagery and propaganda images showing Berlin as " the place to be ! " will be true ,,
You take a deep breath and leave your apartment ...
The day begins ,.the first bus ride ,the first encounter with other human beings ..and the first explosion of all that optimism and positivity as little by little the people start to blow the happy bubble you had created ..:(..But you breathe deep and tell yourself ,its ok ,,i wil stay calm ,i will not join in the sick power games ,the sick ill treatment of other humans ,the passive agressive words and actions will not come from me ! ..
So you head to the supermarket to get some food ,where again you witness ,someone screaming at someone ,someone skipping a queue ,someone having a mental breakdown ,someone elbowing you to get by ,someone staring at you agressively or passive agressively , " egal " ! ..So you breathe deep ,and continue your day ,determined to not let any of these people steal your good mood ,steal your energy ,steal your life force ,,
You breathe deep ,but you can feel that first slip of your vibe as these Walking Dead are slowly spreading their virus into your body ,..but,, you fight against it ,,and proudly determine to not allow yourself be like them ,not become one of them ,to be better than that ,to keep your self together ,and be among the zoo monkeys without becoming one ,,,So you breathe deep ,count to ten ,try not to explode and your day continues ,,You arrange to meet a " friend or acquintance " ,for sure ,because its Berlin ,,this meeting will either not happen ,your friend willl be late ,your friend willl need money from you ,or your friend will arrive with low and negative energy ,as they also are trying to survive " the Hunger Games " they are living here ,,and you realise that your fight to keep yourself together here is worth fighting for because your friend is coping far worse than you ,drowning in the pit ,and you don't want to finish like him or her ,,,so you breathe deep ,,you count to ten ,,and your day continues ,,you decide to go to some social place ,a bar a club a restaurant ,,again ,you are greeted on the way ? and once you are there ? to aggression ,,passive and active ,,,the same shouting ,screaming ,pushing ,shoving ,,plus ,,as alcohol is involved ,and its now getting late ,,this ill behaviour is exaggerated and amplified ,,,but ,,these leeches can smell you are not one of them ,,they can smell that you are fighting to hold on to that better part of you ,that you have not given in ,and you have not given up ,,so they increase their attacks on your sanity and well being ,,the shouting ,screaming ,,pushing ,,abuse grows ,the personal insults come flying ,the stares are longer ,the insults thrown at you are sharper ,,the passive aggressive comments and actions are harder ,,the active aggression from the " gangstas" is doublefold ,,as they try to get you to join them ,in their misery ,...so you breathe deep and count to ten ,more disgusted and more determined not to become one of them ,your brain recalls happy moments in far away places where people were nice to each other and meeting people was not something you associated with problems but as pleasure ! You breathe deep and count to ten and decide you should probably leave and head home ,,,As you head home tired from a whol e long day of fighting to simply maintain your composure and balance .you feel exhausted ,drained ,and your thoughts are heavy and dark and faith in humanity has dropped a thousand points ,.You wonder can you make it back to the safety of your bedroom without some sick person invading your energy ..like the last sprint before the finishing line ,somehow they can smell that you have survived a day without becoming like them ,so this last ten minutes before you get home is the most important ,this is when you are most ripe and open for someone to drive their frustrations and depressions and anxiety into you ,,so you breathe real deep and you count to twenty ,as you know it is so important that before you hit the sack that you don't give in and you don't give up and you don't join them ,you make it back in one piece ,tired but alive and still sane ,you are proud that you didnt explode ,that you didnt berate another human ,that you didnt abuse another human ,you didnt dump your misery into another human ,that you still have some happiness in your soul ,that you still believe in something positive ,that you still have hope for the future ,and you still have the strength and wisdom to know that not every day should be like this ,and in some places outside of here ,a day is not like this !So you go to sleep ,or at least try to ,and wake up ,and do it all again ,,
I advise to watch Columbo series 3 episode 3. To study the intonation/expressions that help neutralize negative energy. It gets you back in touch with being nonreactive, with staying connected. It shows a lot of such behaviours. The first conversation in the office, prior to that it shows how to use casual talk to defend. Columbo gets asked pressuredly if he votes. He calls the bluff and takes him for real and gets chatty but it's just a defence an expression to clear the vibe, to undo the suggested position. Then the interaction at the dressmaker. Pretty much the whole episode is full of inspiration to express oneself, to apologize when one feels like it and witty techniques to sidestep. It is not about being fake, but a means to not be lost and have then better connection to be oneself.
By that I also mean, it can also be done with humour and it makes you more cheered up which side-effect wise is the best counter to low vibe :) One gotto be expressive, can't afford eggshell-feeling. And the intonations are all really really good, nothing that enables or provokes.
Oh, I nearly forgot. The intonation and the rhythm. To wait at times like in music 3u4u and start on the 1 or other time he throws something in on the 3. To stop and begin new with flow like a phrase in music. This is very important energy wise and usually it works naturally but we can be out of tune.
I mean to connect back to the natural rhythm that is always there, to tune into it intuitively. You can't really count you know :) And you know, ideas just come up after you leave something...It's a good example to show how Columbo really comes up with new ideas after he is about to leave and he doesn't really do it as a technique but also at times. While this being though not neccessarily one of the useful things in itself. Just read it as one thing, if you makes you feel better. I know some people get offended by multiple posts :)
Well, surely I mean Peter Falk. I'm sorry don't have a link. Overall I think it is a good way of tuning, to check out different ways to express something whatever series resonates with one.
And I want to clarify one more time: There is no using casual talk, it's gotto be genuine so this can only be about inspiration because the whole point is to be expressive and natural and not selfconscious. At the same time it could be playful. That's how I meant it.
I give you an example: If you just listen to how he turns down the first 2 recommendations of the dressmaker where he touches the material and says no like it's no big deal, this in itself is a universal expression and it is really how he means to say it, it's nothing to try to say. He doesn't feed back into it, nor does he try not to. I mean, he was there for a different reason so it might come easier to him but those are really good. Other thing I like about this character is that he finds ways to say what he really felt for example to the dentist in the beginning.
At times we can have intonation habbits and things come out not as we actually mean it, so I found this to be useful. Obviously with friends everything's easy but throughout the day there can be a lot of misexpressions thrown one's way.
But to be honest I think it's all based on how one is. He says it in this way because he is actually busy checking out other material and just gives it a quick look and it expresses like this. When you focus too much on the tone, it probably is not good. But either way, as for the tones, he says Nein, zu grob: Nein is higher and then a deeper tone, zu is the same tone as the one before and grob is a deeper one, and it really expresses minding one's thing and giving something not more attention than it needs. He comes in fresh there, he is not connected all the time with the other guy. He says it and then tunes out again but before, he is very connected with him. And of course there is so many ways to say this and it depends how one feels and so many things. That all being said I really like it, the way he says No in these 2 tones, then the same tone and then a deeper one, it feels good, solid and has a good distance, no justifying and stuff, one just gotto get what it means and then just feel it.
It sounds all very theoretical and stuff but it actually can make you angry, as I said get you in touch. I was just coming back from getting some cigarettes in this miserable freaking place and the freaking zombie female tried to dump on me. I said for 6.20 and she said 6.30 ! because they cost more now. Then she acted like it's a big deal: Das tut mir leid! I wished I replied: What are you talking about? 6.20, 6.30 it's all the same. Did I give you any sign that I am unhappy about it?! (giving it right back) But I didn't. Yet I realized it and as a result I felt pretty angry which is good. Anger that is based on reality and seeing the bullshit. Because you can actually let that out and you would feel better then. Its not passive-aggressive. At the same time had I replied like this right away, I would not been angry and it would have been easy cause it's also really dumb and stupid. This freaking vagina I hate her so much. Sick of this poop place
The Google campus seems like a big win to me. You'll get an influx of smart folks who'll contribute more tax so you can fix this god forsaken place.
The only ones protesting are the developers who can't reverse a string in place and think they're a dev because they do Wordpress. Pack of monkeys
Google will get what they pay for. The highest compensation they’ll offer will be about 100-120K.half of it is ripped of by the socialist twats, the remaining take home is earned by a junior front end developer in rural areas of us.
and as a preamble to the brain damaged idiot who thinks cost of living and social benefits worth the pay cut: it is not worth and i can find bazillion country arguments against this socialist propaganda about the low salaries.
Who the hell is the Berlin scum who keeps downvoting all the posts here lately? Reveal yourself you freaking loser.
If you don‘t get depressed and leave, you might turn into an egocentric, small minded - always looking for bargains, disfunctional being as well. If you‘re easy to manipulate and try hard to integrate you will probably won‘t even notice how morally corrupt you‘ve become. Ignorance is bliss.
If you want to sit in a Pub in Berlin because there's no place in the house, a single person at the table will send you always away! When you see that the bast*rd goes up and leaves, you just can't understand the behavior! I encounter this horror very often. The same I have experienced during various public celebrations. Berliners won't let you get to the table, even though you're in a tavern and there's nowhere to be a free space! At certain moments I have a desire to break a face to every other person in Berlin! When you're in the bar, the Berliners sit alone at one table and there's no free space. Even a few locals told me that it was perfectly normal?! So when the Germans are going to join my table in my home country, I'll send them away every time!!! This city is full of fuc*ing mother*uckers!!! Locals explain that they want to have peace. Why on earth do they go to the pub??? :((((
If anyone wants a good laugh, look at this ridiculous article about Marzahn, I don't know what they are smoking there but it's sure powerful www.bz-berlin.de/berlin/marzahn-hellersdorf/marzahn-hills-kommt-doch-nicht
Translated in Google:
40 police officers were needed to restrain a man who was hospitalized in "St. Hedwig "(Berlin center) rampaged. Now he is in court.
Previously, Baris K. (30) attacked a gardener in Brunnenstrasse (Wedding) on June 21, 2017, including a hydrant wrench weighing several kilos.
The arrest resisted the Turk massively, damaged a police vehicle. Later, he devastated the station in the Catholic Hospital (5000 Euro property damage) and barricaded himself.
Up to 40 police officers were on duty. Eventually, they managed to overpower the stark-naked man armed with cutlery and shards.
Thanks for the context, Stefan. Glad to see you're carrying on the great Berlin tradition of pretending to not be surprised at anything. It's the same trait that makes this city so disgustingly unbearable and, deep down inside, every one of you autists know it.
The sad thing is that they really don't know it, these poor souls have never had someone show them a kindness, generosity or hospitality, so they just think that is the way life is, they don't question it, because it's all they've ever known. Very sad people the Berliners. .
If you move to Berlin - you can forget your dating life. OK, if you're female - you can simply install Tinder on your phone and receive tons of messages from desperate Turks, Arabs and Germans. But if you're male and you look average (i.e. not like Instagram male model or any other type of a "bad boy") - you are screwed, bro. Involuntary celibacy will be your destiny.
Forget it as a woman too.
I’m the relationship type of girl, so I don’t really date casually. I go out only if I genuine like the guy at first glance, then we take it from there...
I tried a relationship in this city for a while and it killed my soul. I never had such a weird partner. Nothing this bad. I am out of dating after this traumatic one, even considering playing the „save myself from marriage“ card from now on. Literally. It will at least keep me away from more weirdos as apparently sex is like blowing your nose around here.I’ll be boring them to death if I don’t spread my legs from a first date. Good!
OK, I thought it was only the women who were weirdos, so it's the guys as well. My last girl'friend' destroyed my soul as well as stripping me of every ounce of confidence, took me two years to find myself again. Never met so many creepy females and most of them believe Feminist propaganda that is laughed at in any other country. Here's what I mean by that kookykimbo.tumblr.com
If you move to Berlin you can forget everything you've ever done! People don't communicate together in Berlin, you'll never find friends, and Berliners will always tell you that you're a stranger. If you go to the club you'll be there alone and you'll be out there too. Berlin is a city full of aliens!
even considering playing the „save myself from marriage“ card from now on. Literally. It will at least keep me away from more weirdos as apparently sex is like blowing your nose around here.I’ll be boring them to death if I don’t spread my legs from a first date. Good!" ROFL
Berliners don't know what the difference is between tolerance and ignorance and between assertiveness and aggression!
14 Autos brennen in Prenzlauer Berg – Staatsschutz ermittelt
Stand: 13:51 Uhr
Ausgebrannte Fahrzeuge am Kollwitzplatz: Dort brannte am frühen Morgen elf Fahrzeuge lichterloh. Auch in der angrenzenden Knaackstraße brannten geparkte Fahrzeuge
Typical of Berlin Lefty-Antifa imbecile Marxist-thugs.
They deserve to work off the damage at €50 per day in jail, for a Mercedes that should be about 10 years, and pipe into their cells Donald Trump's successes for the USA economy, 24/7.
I've never met such brainwashed and braindead people anywhere in the world, they are like Zombies "burn the car, burn the car, smash all non-Lefties, smash all non-Lefties, get drunk, dope out, get drunk, dope out".
Can hardy wait for the day they bulldoze their filthy squats. But even the cops are scared of these new brown shirts.
Ok, the streets are crowded with annoying German drivers. All because it’s a little sun out. Do they all call off from work simultaneously or what? Wonderful place Berlin is, right? Where you have people driving luxury cars but don’t work. Some body tell me where you can find a job where you work only five hours. But you can still manage to afford a 50 thousand euro Mercedes and live in Zehlendorf.
Originally from the US (New York, to be exact). Pros and cons of leaving Berlin:
CONS:
1. Would have to temporarily set up shop with the 'rents while I look for work
2. Would be fit, happy, going to the gym again at 6 am, eating Whole Foods (not this German crap they peddle off as "edible."
3. Would be able to establish a network of friends
4. More opportunities to make money.
PROS of Berlin:
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Pros of Berlin:
- State-sanctioned mono-culture: Never be unsure of how what stance your conversation partner will have on any given topic
- Living amongst mixed social groups: Enjoy living right below a social welfare recipient who screens and throws beer bottles at the walls of his apartment all night while still paying the full market price for your abode
- Gender neutral bathrooms: No need to fight the good fight for gender equality for the non-binary out there; bushes, trees and lamp posts right next to the street are all unisex so don't be shy to let is fly.
- No more racism: After WW2 Germany was famous for banning racism and insults and therefore neither exist there anymore. Just ignore the fact that literally no one has black friends and there are virtually zero Turkish politicians or civil servants. Germany beat racism, period!
- No problematic speech: America's free speech laws are troublesome! People can just say any old thing they think of. Well those clever Germans found a fix for that! Never again be triggered by dangerous ideas or symbols. But don't worry, if Germany has its way they will also have jurisdiction over American servers (finance.yahoo.com/news/german-official-wants-target-outside-191838452.html)
- No more sensationalist news outlets: Tired of living in fear when your local news channel reports on violent crime? Worried about copycat suicidalists when the government posts statistics on suicide? Worry not in Berlin! The government and media work hand-in-hand here to make sure no negative information reaches the public. Enjoy peace of mind knowing that you will never know how dangerous this country really is.
- German food is the best in the world: Ever heard the German saying "Schwarzbrot macht Wangen rot, Weißbrot macht tot!"? It's true! Dark German bread is actually medicine, along with German schnapps, German tea and German homeopathics! The caramel coloring and molasses added to the bread makes it a superfood! But just make sure you don't add that same caramel coloring to soda because then it's a carcinogen
- Cheaper water: It's widely reported that Berlin has some of the most expensive water in Europe, but that is short-sighted. It is socially acceptable to bathe only once per week here, meaning water is actually LESS expensive. Do you even math?
- Religious freedom: Germany is a bastion of light in upholding religious freedom for all of its citizens as long as you are Christian or Jewish. Banning headscarves for public servants in sensible and actually PROMOTES religious freedom (please ignore the crucifixes and religious studies classes in every school in Bavaria). Maintaining a government database on Scientologists also promotes freedom of religion because it's not German.
- Best media in the world: Propaganda tax, ahem, I mean the Rundfunkbeitrag makes German media the envy of the world. It's difficult to walk into any cinema on earth without seeing a slew of German films being shown. From Run, Lola, Run! to Das Boot, the world just cannot get enough of German film engineering from 30 years ago.
- Close access to all of Europe: Germany is the heart of Europe. Enjoy visiting poverty-stricken areas of Europe every weekend so you can stretch your tiny German paycheck and feel like you are actually almost lower middle class somewhere.
- Birth control: Birth control in Germany is so cheap that the population here has been declining for DECADES! And hey, if you forget the take birth control and miss the abortion date because you're so high on every drug conceivable then don't worry. There's always the possibility of the super-late-term abortion; just utilize your Merkel-given right to not vaccinating and inevitably expose your child to the measles epidemic present in every Kindergarten in the country.
Honestly I could list pros to Berlin all day but I think you get the idea. This city is full of opportunities that trump every other country, especially Amerikkka! And, speaking of Trump, he is a big fat jerk! How could you want to live in a country ruled by such a xenophobe (please ignore the fact that the German ruling party the CDU's officials have gone on record saying foreigners should be forced to speak German even within their homes)? How could you live in a country full of people who are in DEBT (please ignore the fact that home/car ownership in America is much higher than in Germany). How could you want to live in a country where public bathrooms are free and ubiquitous? You must be brainwashed because all of the expats from America I have ever met have gone to great lengths to convince me, and themselves, that their lives in Germany are better.
Pros of living in Germany:
I feel safer here because guns are not widely available. I know everything can be turned into a weapon like a car but assault rifles do far more damage.
The idea of crazy people carrying guns freaks me out.
There is efficient public transportation.
Health insurance is affordable compared to the U.S.
Overall, I still prefer the U.S.
Another pro living in Germany:
You don't get easily locked up for non violent offences like drugs. The cops here are not as corrupt and violent as in the States.
In U.S., a cop can stop you, find weed and take away your car. Civil forfeiture is a disgrace.
If you travel with more than 10k dollars, by law police can take your money and never give it back to you.
Here I can call the police knowing that I won't be accidently shot because they thought my cell phone is a gun.
I have not looked the stats of how many Germans die from communicable diseases.
I have all my shots done and maintain personal hygiene.
There are way too many gun deaths in U.S. even accounting for suicides.
I know I am more likely to die in a car crush or cancer. The idea of crazy people with guns is much more fear inducing.
Just look at factors that actually definitely influence quality of life: people, weather, potential income. Germany loses hands down. For people who have no drive, skills or intelligence Germany offers a decent quality of life compared to elsewhere. But if you have any motivation at all it's bad.
A few pages back someone mentioned measles here and it made me worry so I looked at the underlying statistics. It is weird that Germany supposedly has a vaccination rate that's about 4 percentage points higher than the U.S. but still has about 10 times the number of measels infections per year. It must be hygiene. People here always picking their faces, freaking around with their noses, chewing on fingers, not washing hands. Definitely something beyond vaccinations causing this problem.What else could it possibly be?
You are definitely on to something. I also have noticed an increase of public nose picking - especially in Berlin. It is a filthy habit and spreads disease yet people do it and see nothing wrong with this and they will do it right in front of others without any shame - parents used to smack there kids when they did and for a very good reason. Now parents treat their kids like High Royalty so there you have it. Filth is everywhere in Berlin.
Imagine how much more arrogant Germans would be if they had ever won a war.