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Actually this is mot why I hate Berlin.But the horrible relationship with my Geman Ex.I met this German Ex at my workplace as my colleague.We lived together and we talked about making family.But when I got eventually pregnant,he changed his mind and left me.He was even very angry because he is too young to be a father,he is 26years old,and paying the Alimony for 18years.What????
Then he blocked me and behaved just passive aggresive. We made no conact at all since November at my 6weeks of pregnacy.But in February he sent me an Email and said
"I am so sorry.I was immature.I want to raise our baby in love.Lets love each other in a different way as our child's parents..Please contact me back".
For the baby's sake I contacted him back.
But again he was passive aggressive as before,we had an arguement at the end of March and he blocked me again.
And last week I received a message from his mother(yes his mother.not from him directly)She said
"My son is in a relationship now and his new partner.She gave birth a son 2weeks ago.They are family already and live together already.He will adopt this son too.Therefore please consider to register your baby as Father unknown because my son is not interested in you and the baby anymore.He has new family now and happpy.Your baby will not be haapy to have a father who is not interested in her and ignore her".
What do you think and can you understand any of them ?and any part of this situation???
Duck that old german bitch!! This is absurd!
A baby is not a disposable and something you lose interest into like an old toy!
This female dog even pretends she knows what would make your baby happy!
Like they freaking know everything!
I am sorry for ranting, this is a situation that must be difficult as hell and I am sorry you are going through it.
This is all up to you now, not her and frankly not even him it seems. Although misery will hunt the crap out of him until rest of his days for abandoning his child like this, I am telling you!
Now think about yourself and the baby‘s benefit. As a single mom you will get a better settlement with the authorities, I‘d think, probably more support than counting on this asshat.
Also, consider if you want him in your life, your kid‘s life or not.
Frankly, you can still find a loving partner and have a beautiful life with someone else for yourself and the kid. He doesn’t have to be a toxic piece of crap forever Push-Pull in your life like that.
Take this decision based solely on what you think it’s best and what you want for you kid.
The old hag cares about his offspring not to be legally bonded and forced to pay alimony, I‘d rather say... more than anything.
But if it’s a better deal/support for the kid, squeeze the poop out of him, under his mother’s loving eyes.
Anyhow... fornicate that bitch. Do what you feel it’s best! Focus on thing that actually matter: You, the baby.
Thanks a lot .You know my due date is end of June And the mother of his Ex has four kids.She should have known how I feel if I heard this.The father of my baby is happy with his new partner and her new born son...If the want to keep it secret why now??If they want to tell it.Again why now? Why not earlier and ehy contacted me??And he is 26.What is doing both of them.I had a baby from 16years old boy or what??I am so devastated...
I did.Idid.Well it was good in the end because I could see that he would be abuse my baby because I saw how he react when I told him I am pregnant.But I nevee expected he and his family would do such a thing to me.Yes find new woman(while he said he is too young to be a father started dating a pregnant woman who at least in her 5months of pregnancy ?)and yes his mother.Like Typical Germans.No empathy and actes as if she knew everything what is best for my child because they are Geeman and in Germany this might be "Normal"..
most of german famiies are disfunctional.I don't rhink my mom will act like that if her son is acting like the Ex.And always This Geizig...Germans..Not want to pay Alimony..And yes Kindeegeld until 25 so he still acring like Kind...
Fxxking shit!!!!, these people in Germany are completely 100% insane. As one poster said make sure you keep all the emails as proof. Fxxk him and his mother. What man has his mother speak for him, anyway? Don’t fall to the emotions of pity but anger and retribution. Make sure without any hesitation you get that little punk for child support. Don’t worry, the Germans courts will be on your side for this one. The other poster is right you should cut off all communications with those fools. Your story has pissed me off!! These Germans are extremely wicked people they are capable of anything. I’m sick, I hate that I ever came to this place. Please hold strong and handle the situation for you and your child then move on from this experience.
I find die Mutter disturbingly psycho!
Don‘t reply to her, don’t bother giving her a reaction. That’s how these demons feed, when they can intimidate. Don’t offer that!!
For the sake of your own healing, get away from these psychos!! Get a legal agreement in the child’s best interest, and cut all emotional aspect out of it. Reserve it for someone worth the time...
I wouldn't trust any woman in Berlin telling me she's pregnant with my baby, the first thing I'd ask for is a paternity test. Why the F did you get pregnant to a creepy German, FFS, that's what marriage is for, a bond, security, commitment. Young people these days are fvcked in the head, grow the fvck up and have some responsibility for your lives.
Not all divorced couples abandon their child. As a matter of fact, I personally believe that “sticking together” for the kids is a loooot worse than just going separately, civilized, and meet other people to be at best with. Also, the kid will know too, that you don’t have to put up with toxic relationships! Why is such a stigma, I don’t know. It’s the 21st century, let’s progress...
When a German does something you will not get an apology, the speech with go somehow: I am not pleazed vith diz, I feel nicht gut to hear, you must be vrong, I feel nicht gut, you are bad, you should apologise to mich now!! You: No, actually I am pointing out politely a situation that you caused. German: Na klar, then vi are beide bad!! No one, especially an äuslander can call me out! Ich mag das nicht. You make me feel nicht gut!
And theeeen... You will be the bad guy & the frickin‘ Fritz a victim... regardless if he almost smashed your skull open while trembling into you without caring.
This is a metaphor for all interactions that require an apologetic behaviour of any kind that inflicted either physical or emotional harm on another fellow human.
Haha.I am the who wrote about the horroble ex and his family Yes they are so.So true.
Adding to the below discussion "They also body slam you on road for an ego boost":
Yes they do!!!
And they love to do it to other Germans as well (I am half German NOT raised in Berlin).
I have experienced the aggressive mumbling thing 3 times within the last week, all times dressed a little "above Berlin average" (which in this place means outfits like a coat, simple sunglasses, or a dress).
One of those who mumbled was a guy clearly on drugs, one a girl my age and one a girl with her bf. Although I speak German I didn't get what they all said but I got that it was no greeting, no sorry for standing in your way or no have a nice day (doubt if anyone here ever says that lol).
The girl clearly started whispering her sentence saying "She ..." as soon as our ways crossed so yes whatever this f* w* said was about me.
It happened to me so many times I am so sick of it!!!
Berlin taught me something important. Ultimately, if you chase youth you will eventually get older. So there needs to be a point where you make something of yourself. The only people who can truly make a good living in Berlin are German, unless you happen to be an anomaly. Everyone wants to live in a free country. Unfortunately many countries are corrupt including (shocking) Chermany. For this reason, most people who are foreigners that are going to Chermany are chasing something, they have ambition, until they get crushed by the state. Then obviously you have those that just move to Chermany to party. Either way, we all get older. Sure we can chase the fun times in Berlin but where will that ultimately lead us? Do you see what I’m getting at here? There is no balance.
Sorry to ramble also. I’m not the reciepts guy but I hope you can all follow me. There is no point in chasing the addiction of living in Berlin when anyone in their right mind can see that your life ends up going nowhere if you stay.
I tried to go back to my own country, but I had nothing in common with my friends anymore and I do not see it the same way. I feel I’d have to make practically all new friends. Nobody knows what I went through, they don’t understand or think I’m making it up.
I have an incident in Zoo. I'm a girl, and returning from school. A bunch of guys, (I think 6 or 7) where seating on these benches, close to that bridge that leads to Morgenstern. I was passing in front of them, and they shouted, then one of them asked if I wanted to marry him, and said something to others, and were laughing altogether. Sexist losers! Dont they have anything to do with their miserable lives?!
The dudes here are absolute clowns for sure. They have the mentality of 5 years old here. No respect for women or anyone else for that matter. Fools here don’t know how to have a normal decent conversation with a female with stuttering. Thirsty looking losers without any goddam personality. German men and the imported Turks here are dull and stupid. As a man I’ve seen a lot of things that are just wrong. Women are human too there is no need for harassment and stupid comments. Besides, this place is poop so there is no surprise the people are poop too. fornicate em all.
A lovely Russian female friend of mine told me when she first moved to our neighbourhood, on her way home one night, some Arab boys said "show us your pvssy", so she put her bags down and said, "sure, no problem" and started to lift her skirt up and they ran away.
If someone starts clinging/dating you who has lived in Berlin a decade and still not accomplished much, beware. Red flag!!!
Either I am hallucinating, shizophrenic and plain paranoid or these bastards really mumble insults and do weird growls why I am passing by, I experienced this over a hundred times. Am I alone there or someone else here that is experiencing this too?
My neighbours used to blast subwoofer everyday even tho I warned them multiple times, landlord wouldn’t fix the problem, I eventually used corona as an excuse to ditch and keep the deposit (not pay rent the last two months) out of retribution for the mental torture I had to endure.
They do it on purpose, harassing foreigners is as ingrained in their culture as drinking a beer after work and not ventilating rooms
ive also noticed that they cough when they pass you. Sometimes i think i make them uncomfortable but i dont know if its because they think i am attractive and are jealous or if they think i am unattracrive. It makes me feel unattractive but i actually think it is because they are jealous somehow
I miss my friends in Berlin but I don’t miss Berlin, what to do
I know everyone’s lives go to poop in Berlin, but have you seen someone’s life REALLY implode before your very eyes? Share your horror stories
I never saw a massive implosion in Berlin due to most people under 30 being trustafarians. They were all "photographers" who had top of the range Leicas (saw many M10s and even a film Leica M-A) or designers who made terrible Wordpress sites for friends starting businesses which were gonna fail. None of em and I mean none of em did more than five hours of meaningful work a day. This was ten years ago and sadly, they haven't really changed. They still think everything is expensive and survive on €1.50 Helles.
Imo this is worse than an implosion. They have literally wasted a decade of their lives doing absolute bs when they could've done anything else.
I wish my parents had paid for my life In Berlin. I would have gotten somewhere. But actually I don’t because I have some self respect. What kind of losers milk their parents so they can party and pretend to be bad ass. Pathetic. Literally use your privilege to help anyone else
So I have several gay People at work and chat to them every now and then! They all moved here for good, from Italy, Brazil, China! All of them claim in Berlin and only in Berlin they could finally be free, for them its paradise! I told all of them for me it’s the opposite! They couldn’t understand me.. or a non gay person in the first place
I have a rule that I live by. If I like you and I think you are cool, intelligent or whatever.
I never ask you if you like Berlin. Because if you do and you begin talking all that garbage I will admittedly cut you off. The matter of Berlin being broken up is not subjective.
The thought of placing my John Thomas in another man's sewage outlet makes me shudder. And walking around with a superior attitude is also a big turn-off, as well as the affected voices, the indiscriminate sex in toilets and parks, etc etc etc. One of the reasons I left Berlin was to get away from people whose main identification is what they do with their penisses and pusssies, what a bore, but then again, it is Borelin after all.
I’m a guy who likes guys and hate that filth ridden city. Being ‘gay’in Berlin (or actually globally as well) is a lifestyle. People identify themselves via their sexual preferences and exploit them. Whilst doing this they also blame others for being prejudice against ‘gays’ although they themselves are a walking and talking prejudice.
Berlin claims to be open-minded but I experienced more hostility here than back in my home country. I don’t feel free here, in fact I feel the opposite. My home country is more conservative, yet, it is a lot more free than this sewer.
funny how people in this city seem to magically have disposable income but are "so poor" and "definetely do not have parents supporting them as adults" and miraculously do not work.
Berlin is a weird place and only place where I have seen adults in their 40s, unemployed, unable to pay their own rent, responsible for their needs and so on... But at the same time principled AF to work a simple job at least...
That being acceptable and accepted.
For me, this is just repulsive, and I find these bugs just worthless human residue, but that’s not allowed to say out loud.
We must tolerate and be empathetic to them. Mniuuu mniuuu mniuuuu
I lived in Berlin from 2012-2015. This is what it had going for it:
- Could rent an ok place for €500 warm
- Could survive comfortably on €1.2k
- Anyone who had any sense worked remotely for US and UK companies so we lived like kings.
The above three benefits balanced out the following downsides:
- Rude population
- Boomers who inhabit a different mental space due to communism
- Crap architecture
- Crap food
- Terrible weather
I mean who in their right mind would move to Berlin now? The real estate is super expensive, the avg job still pays crap and there are hordes of sleaze from the ME who have no education. Sounds like utter hell.
Btw, I love this site and all its posters. Thanks admin for keeping this place alive.
The above post mentioned ME not being educated. Lol, who have you interacted with? Honestly, most people from there are educated and speak several languages. Sir, you are no better. You are speaking from a false sense of superiority. You are allowed to have your opinion sir but you are wrong to say such bigotry.
My jibe was not about all folks from the ME, just the hordes who smuggled themselves in. Yes I have interacted with them and I am correct about their education levels. Here’s a report from the German Economic Institute, www.iwkoeln.de/fileadmin/user_upload/Studien/Report/PDF/2017/IW-Report_2017_37_Education_Levels_of_Refugees.pdf. Only 15% of them have been to uni and only 20% have completed higher secondary school. Hilariously 10% of these men are illiterate. Call me a bigot all you want but they’re simply allowed here because they’re going to be a cheap source of Labour.
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/cologne-new-year-s-eve-mass-sex-attacks-leaked-document-a7130476.html%3famp
Just leaving this here as well to reinforce my statement.
Too many #woke, SJW, virtue-signalers in Borelin. The funny thing is, some moronic SJW above accused me of playing the victim-card, when I was pointing out victim-card players, just like she was in the original post. This is typical mad-house Berlin M.O.
Honestly: I wonder why Techno music should be a German product? It's been written here before. You hate Techno, because you believe, it's a German style of music? But it's not like that! Derrick May (musician) - Wikipedia / German Techno wouldo suitable to rename to german EDM. RAVE also does not come from Germany but from ENGLAND! German Hip-Hop is not Hip-Hop but german RAP! .. and so on. Want to hear some good dance music? selectradioapp.com
The decision and Date is set: december 1st I am leaving this place after 5 years! Fortunately I have enough savings and gonna travel the world for 3 months just to recover! I am gonna return to my Home country of Switzerland: There is a lot of things I dont like about Switzerland and there Are a lot of similarities to Berlin or Germany! But the Main factor was my Family and friends, people that genuinly care absolutem and vice versa! Herr I am just a robot! What a feeling..
Switzerland is great. Especially outside of the big cities, but even the big cities are wonderful compared to Berlin. Much more expensive but they earn good money there. In country towns you can leave your bike unlocked and know it won't be stolen.
Very well mannered people and very sincere and open-minded, and no I don't mean drugs and sex, I'm talking about open-minded for things that actually matter in life, science, relationships, philosophy conversation, not narcissistic hedonism like in Borelin.
If I could get a work visa, I'd live there in a heartbeat. I also love being around Polish people. But there is no place better than your own country where you get the humour and reference points in conversations. Also great to be around networks of friends and family who will help you with contacts and fair mechanics/tradesmen etc etc.
Berlin is great for one thing, practising your observations of gaslighters. Berliners and Germans in general, are know-it-alls.
I met one time someone from Switzerland. Great gal, going through a rough time but still being an open & decent human.
Nothing like the Germans...
But only one example here, maybe the downvotes from above are in disagreement.
And Poles are pretty awesome too. Cannot compare!
1“Actually actually Americans are the worst”
2 “actually russians are the worst”
You are right, they are the worst. I think you should go to both places and say it. Both places are big on violence and guns. Not one place in Western Europe is as violent as the US. The UK is close but not on that scale of people carrying guns in public. Please go to Russia first and send us a postcard. Have fun!!!
I'm girl, 16, an old man (mid 60s, I think) the other day, tried to pull me out of the S-Bahn train at Bellevue. I was heading to my school. He grabbed my hand and tried to take me out of the train. I resisted, managed to get him off. Creeps!
By the way you are writing, there is no way that you are 16, and a girl. You doubt me, and what happened to me at the S-Bahn. And you know also why? My parents make that age/looks comparison. So you are older than 16, and a guy. Which means you are safe in Berlin, and noone is going to harasse you!