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What's your experience in dating here? The only girls I was able to connect with (and hook) were here either short-term or just moved here recently. Every date with someone who's been here for more than a year was either horrible or just dull...has anyone experienced something similar?
I went on some weird dates with dudes who at first sight seemed totally normal - good job, good education, living in a nice neighbourhood - but soon turned out to have serious mental health issues. I am not a psychiatrist, but to me it looked like a collection of: Aspergers, narcissism, pathological lying. And there is the general 'I hate the world' thing. Can't really describe it, it's just a misanthropic world view. They hate everyone and everything. To me, this is puzzling, because they live in a safe country, with good social benefits and decent job opportunities. I understand that there are some problems here, but there are problems everywhere. Why all the hate and negativity?
I can explain it in one F work, FEMINISM. The religion that brainwashes young impressionable women into thinking of themselves as victims, even though they are living the most privileged lives of any majority group in history. Want to totally twist your mind up, go do a Women's Studies course and be indoctrinated by men-hating lesbians into the dark world of hate and victimhood.
I like haters. I rather prefer those to the very hip, vegan pewssies with dirty beards and shallow outlooks on life or some absurd entitled loser.
I dated and I am completely put off by the whole thing. I am now a complete “no” to men here, especially when it comes to have spaeti beers split 50/50 and call it a “date”. Hilarious and sad at the same time. Thanks, but no thanks.
Also, sex is expected even if all goes super unfit, which makes me puke a bit.
I rather use a dwildo and watch some Netflix after, boy.
Dating is autistic here
OK, so you are saying that you expected to pay for the guy's beer, no, so what did you expect, him to pay for your beers, why the phuck should he pay for your beer, I don't get it, if filthy scummy Feminists want equality, they shouldn't complain when they get it. Phucked if I will ever buy a woman a drink and risk being called a patriarchal oppressor. Phuck feminists and phuck the women they have brainwashed.
Oh wow. Such a great feedback. Haha (I am the one with the spaeti beer comment).
Let me explain common manners: If you initiate the date, you pay. Usually guys initiate first, so yeah, it’s expected imo.
On the other hand, if I ask someone to join me, I take the curtesy to pay as well.
it’s all about inviting a person to spend time and energy with you, so in return you spend a round, and...
Isn’t it dating all about making your potential partner feel special and Blabla bla? Among other thumbs ofc.
Clear?
Yeah, guys make the invite first because big-mouthed Feminists don't even have the guts to make the initial approach, so after risking rejection, he then has to risk ridicule for paying for her, and in return he gets, "I don't want your patriarchal money, you are not going to buy me with a drink". Go MGTOW, you'll never regret it, funny thing is, you actually get more female reproductive organ than when you pander to moronic women who have had their heads scrambled by Feminsm. I love my life by the way, no more letting women tell me what I shoud and sholdn't do and say and pay, "male liberation, go MGTOW". :o)))))))))) My big fat MGTOW smile. Good luck suckers.
Ok, one question for the ladies - do you get evil stares from MEN? I am talking about German men, not the thirsty stares from MENA barbarians. I sometimes feel stared at and when I turn around, there is some German guy staring at me angrily. This evil staring thing never happened to me in other places - at least not from men lol.
After 6 years there, I could never work out the staring thing. Also the stink of the alcoholic homeless, `I remember once having a whole carriage to myself on a crowded train and after a few seconds I realised why, the stink was so bad I felt like fainting, that was a weird sight. Even though I had many acquaintances there, I very rarely bumped into someone I know. Smaller cities are now my thing. Loving my new life, get out as soon as you can, you won't miss Berlin after one day and your real self will start coming back again very quickly.
Most people speak English, not sure about jobs because I work online from anywhere, rent is reasonable, but not super cheap, but the people are much more courteous and relexed, except they do play chicken on he footpaths, but I've realized that you look the other way when they are changing direction to walk straight into you and they move just in time. Very strange habit, but still better than Berlin barbarity.
Honestly don't know what's worse: the overall social climate in the city or the expats who come here to hate on everyone who happens to be German. Some people deserve one another.
I think we can be honest with ourselves by stating that most Berliners lack social skills. I don't know if it's different elsewhere within Germany, but considering most of the Germans I've met in Berlin are not from Berlin, that quality is either extremely German or learned from being in this city. There's such little diversity among Germans that it's easy to lump them all in together. There are like three archetypes of people in Germany: paranoid, loner East German types; type A, mean German girls; arrogant Rothschild-esques; and drugged out zombies. All of them are unbearable. Are there a few exceptions to those caricatures? I guess, but they're difficult to find.
People are people. You can run into weirdos everywhere. A lot of pepole from Latin America say that they feel safe here at last and are grateful for that. Not saying that Bumlin is not a dump. Just don't fool yourself into thinking everywhere else is better.
Berlin has a great advertisement and people believe it. But the reality is elsewhere and what many will experience here is daunting! Let the Germans stop saying that Berlin is a great place! In the end it turns out so that you get mad a lot of people, just because Berlin is not a good place for young people! Berlin is a place for gangsters and drug dealers!
Paris sucks, too expensive and jobs that pay less than Berlin and gets really crappy outside the main area. More aggressive people on the street trying to force you to give them money and more pick pockets. London is too corporate and expensive, full of very serious yuppies and criminals as well, salaries aren't that much better. Amsterdam is too small for the amount of tourism it gets and it's become very expensive while the salaries haven't gone up. Barcelona gets too many tourists and the salaries are too low for the cost of living, they have a major issue with pick pockets. Madrid is similar but without the nice beach and gets too hot in the summer. Rome is even worse than Barcelona in terms of tourists and job market and salaries. Vienna has a lousy job market if you're not fluent in German and it's far from the top cities young people think is cool or fun to be in right now (maybe that's a good thing in a way, but still, if you're single, that matters). Honestly, Europe is kind of in a pooping state as a whole right now and there is no clear stand out best city (excluding those quality of life lists of cities).
Istanbul would be great if it had a fourth of the population it does, a decent job market and was more prosperous, and wasn't full of devout Muslims and Turkey was in the EU (definitely not in favor of them being in the EU as the country is right now though).
Creepy German hatred of men and families. Complete with public urination and masturbation.
www.bayern3.de/muttertag-werbespot-edeka-shitstorm-danke-mama
What a broken up country that is mainlining this kind of drivel.
I hate the whole wanna-be-cool-but-too-poor-and-never-left-Berlin-or-Brandenburg-so-got-some-tattoos-Hipster-Alternative-left-but-actually-right-Scene in Berlin.
I love the way this climate change skeptic, wipes the floor with the brainwashed lefties who are pushing their ideoligical propaganda. www.youtube.com/watch Lefties really are morons, exagerating to the point of being laughable.
One part of german / berlin culture is low emotianal ingeligence. Like, not being able to even identify own emotions let alone deal with them. Ok Hans you’re frustrated I get it. But you don’t get it.
The only emotions they know are, rudeness, anger and superiority, all masking the real feelings helplessness, hopelessness and inferiority, that tey have pushed down so deeply, they have forgotten they did so, and then they pass it on to their offpring, neighbours and customers. "Vee ver vonce der great NastyNaziNation".
This has a lot do with emotions. Because it's so collective in this forced way there is tons of repressed things and emotions are dealt with collectively. That's why games and rules.You cannot be connected to life and therefore spontaneously smile at someone when you are managing your feelings. They have mind bugs, constantly get entangled and communicating stuff noone should ever get.Actually suffering from that, because it‘s not their identity. I'm just saying. I hate it as every life loving human can only do. You need to feel yourself in order to feel things, they'd be normal in no time. They are full, or a sucker/dumpster. I know because I'm a musician. I always express things this way, maybe to cope but I also like it. You feel different then, very.People take on 2d stuff for life. They learn to cope such way. Initially all is normal when young. They don't have a chance to be human here, trust me they try but things are so collective, it's like constant match ups. But ok, it's also simply karma. There isno effort to be normal. Hard to tell if anyone's fault. There is so many misunderstandings of things, like illusions. People are mad to be not connecte to life. Atst they try to get agood position. There is so much nonsense here, they don't know how life works. But not seem to care. Just lost. Some conflicting thoughts, obv hard topic
It's because they have had no life experience, straight out of school from a small country town, now with no one to guide them exceot other lost sluls in a huge, anonymous city for away from their family and real friends. It's sad. If I were you, I'd YouTube some Jordan B Peterson, he really cares about people's lives, he's a very sincere person.
And I'm almost certain that the mind stuff is secondary to emotions. Atst they don't even know because constantly trading emotions, avoiding loser positions. Just really poor effort to stay true to oneself. Just that maybe I have easy talk because not everyone can sing such way. I mean what's the use, they are toxic. It seems impossible to reply good pure things. Sometimes it feels they unconsciously try to get saved, surely coming in with their traumas. And then they’d never get it. They don't know who they are because they don't feel themseles because they are connected collectively. In theory Germans are very good people. They somehow got one thing fundamentally wrong, that being extra effort for natural things. Being, they don't know what this means.
They don't know it's the other way. At the same time they couldn't handle it. So yeah long story Berlin sucks. Btw with pure good things I meant also anger or whatever it is you feel , no meta stuff. I mean I did this one time. And the person was very lost in a good way. I can tell you.. I was in the car with my brother and I felt great because I just was singing, feeling it all and I got good sense for getting myself and seeing ._wait. Often the problem is ridiculous situation but serious feels. Very rough combo.. Ok so I just feeling fine and I felt tense vibe and that's why I just loved to chat a lot. He hated it of course and he cursed at another driver but it was addressed at me.I felt about it and he did not get the hoped reaction because I had no bonds, I was singing, healing. It was a very above feel , deep life. I found it so low. He tried again, by fake apologizing. There was nothing to say. We naturally were on different pages. Then he was really confused, he felt really small. He believed that he was fake apologizing, but in reality he actually meant it. It's something you can't try of course, I had the same extra effort bug.Good intention though. And I'm not only, there is even singers struggleing with that. It's relievingly absurd thankfully.
I'm sorry I mentioned this fuc.king bug. It's just irritating. Life is life. I mean sometimes you can see it in football, people trying to copy paste tricks or singers too. Ah I know, bug implies fixing but it's not like that. That was the problem. Just gotto feel.
From this city it is better to run away as soon as possible!!! This is only possible in the capital of Germany!
www.n-tv.de/panorama/Parkmanager-markiert-Plaetze-fuer-Drogendealer-article21013050.html
Well, he doesn't want to seem racist against Africans now, does he.
What type of scum would come to someone else's country and sell mind-destroying drugs to young people, and what type of people would stand idly by and let them do it. This place is so ffucked up it's beyond repair.
Raegen should have said "tear down that city Mr Gorbachev, tear down that city". Not just the wall.
People trying to be cool. You aren’t.
Are you one of those dickwads who are still on Farcebook, well you'd better read this and start shiittting your pants: www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/may/08/mark-zuckerberg-has-to-go
Anyone who would trust someone who says "I can't believe those phucking idiots trust me with their information", well they deserve everything they get. Read and weep you phucking morons. www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/may/08/mark-zuckerberg-has-to-go
Yesterday I was walking back to work after lunch. I work in one of the busiest parts of the city, so there were tons of people all over the place. Some German guy stood like 12 feet off from the tram station and pissed into some kind of planter thing, not even trying to hide behind bushes or trees or anything, facing right into big groups of people. Don't understand how people can have such little respect for themselves and others.
Just fyi, there are enough Germans here who don't like this city and the mentality. And they don't have nice, sunny home countries to go back to.
Depends on where you go. The South is doing OK for the most part. The closer you get to the border, the better things get economically. Whether the culture is your cup of tea is another story, though the people are somewhat more relaxed and gemutlich than in the North.
"Honestly don't understand why Germans choose to stay in Germany. " Switzerland is waaay too expensive and anal, like the worst German traits x 1000. Austria has been struggling economically and with their job market for awhile now and continues to decline on country rankings. Vienna is just a well designed city and is still affordable but the job market there is pretty weak. Some other German cities are doing fine, they're just not really appealing in an international way and have higher living costs.
The problem of the Germans is that they are idealists! They are convinced that the world will work according to their style, and in this way! Germans are just like aliens. Everything that is normal anywhere else in Germany is not. If you come to the Pub in Berlin and there's only one person at each table, this guy will tell you, he's got no free space and he drinks his beer and then he leaves. At that moment, I want to go to him and punch him in the face! But this is a German mentality and everything in Germany works like this. I've been in Berlin for 4 years and I also feel very tired. Most of the Germans have been doing me pretty badly here!!! The majority of Germans only accept their mentality and think that this is how it works worldwide. In autumn I go back home to Portugal and I will behave German tourists exactly as they behaved me in their country! The worst are Eastern Germans!
They all deserve a good unch in the face, to wake them uo from their socialist dream stupor. This is capitlaism, you know the system that people all over the world are risking their lives to come into. Fhuck socialists and cummunists and all the bulllshit analchists and all the lefties and the feminist scum, so glad I left that shitehole. Berlin is for ;osers and scumbags. And ti thunk I c=actually spent a few years thunking, "it must be me, itcouldn't possibly be the whole city". I am almost back to normal 3 months after leaving that sewage pit. Feeling more, positive, friendly, optimistic and balanced again.
You know what's really funny? A lot of expats like it here. They have good jobs (sent over from the US or wherever by their companies), live in nice apartments in more or less decent areas and thoroughly enjoy the experience. Makes those who suffer look a bit weird. Some people are probably just lucky here.
yes, and they stick to their sanitized areas and never leave them, because they can afford to isolate themselves from the scum of the earth. No multi-kulti for them, they live in 100% western christian based white neighbourhoods, they don't have to buy their drugs in street corners from Africans, they have their own Uber service of home delivery. These are te tpe of people who go to Rome and have coffee at Starbucks.