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Look around you and what do you see?! Zombies and the Undead. Germans are a nation of people whose inner child was slaughtered. When they are born they are given botox injections. Look at their children! They have frozen little faces and turn into emotionally crippled adults that mate and bear more of the same. They all hold their emotional cards close to their chest in terror of allowing their faces to register their FEELINGS!
Its a horror movie that I escaped last Summer after too many years and I am still in recovery from these cold-hearted demonic people. I´m a funny friendly person and I think I need therapy after so long in that disfunctional place. I´m still quivering...
Is it just me or do most people in Berlin have like 1000+ Facebook friends? Their standards for adding someone as a friend on fb are very low. Why add someone you met only once and will probably never meet again? Why be friends with people who probably could care less if you lived or died? I know that young people and attention wh*res everywhere have tons of fb friends but I feel like this phenomenon is way more common in Berlin.
The organization call Berliner Polizei should be abolished. After all the criminal cases I've experienced over three years living here this service did not earn even a tiny bit of mine respect. The city would be much better off having sort of oriental militia.
I just returned from a trip to Shenzhen - China. A city that evolved so far from almost nothing. Now I get it, that is the future. A fast moving, high tech environment where rich and poor try to move forward. Berlin will never reach the future, in fact it is backwards in almost every aspect. Berlin will never be there due to constant whining and pouting. Whining won't make you move forward. So pack your poop and book a flight, I know I will because this place is doomed I guarantee you, it ain't goin' nowhere! #berlintechiscrap #fleeberlin
www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2016-10-07/inside-rocket-internet-s-ailing-startup-factory
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I enter the Sbahn and all I hear is talking about work, work, work, university and that's all. Are Germans really that limited ? I can't even find a buddy to ride a bike weekends ...
Oh faking gawd. Winter's beginning. It's almost here. Get ready to have your mind put through a meat mincer.
I try to avoid this site in order to isolate myself from negativity. Just to survive a few more months. It's why I avoid germans like the plague. I only shop in asian/turkish/polish shops, I bike everywhere, I don't even go to the bank. If all goes good, I can live a whole week without interacting with one of these broken berliners.
Just came back from a 7 day vacation in italy. The people smiled all the time. They were helpful. When I asked a shop lady if she sold stamps, she told me that no, but there's a post office, it's closed on sundays, but it opens at 7 am on mondays. If this happened in Berlin, I would either just get a cold stare or a "Nein." Nothing else. I haven't felt so alive in months. The problems started as soon as I stepped off the plane. Went to buy a sandwich at the airport just after getting off the plane. The lady starts speaking german. I say that I dont understand german. She just repeats things louder. It's a fking airport, why the fk are you surprised someone doesnt understand german, you ugly cnt? Cant even do your fking job right, can you? Ok, I got my sandwich, and I get on the sbahn to get home but the sbahn breaks or something and Im stuck. Great.
Eh, I could go on, like all of us, but why? This week in italy showed that there exists a world beyond this sad and broken place and that I can leave in just a few more months :). I hope this place gets totalled at some point. Deutsche bank and commerzbank are laying off 1/5th of their workforce, they're imploding from within, Rocket's stock has gone down like 50% because hurr durr, you can only copy so many startup ideas from the US/UK/FR/PL/JP/etc. oh and no one wants to buy your pooping fking diesel cars so damn, I cant wait to wait 10-15 years and then fly over this place and see that it's now just a forest and the berliners run naked like animals, which they already are now.
Thanks for nothing berlin, Ive never been in a more hostile place then here.
Haha yeah the classic shock after arriving by plane or train. I came from London throug Schönefeld yesterday with my colleague who sports a small beard. Drunk guy started harassing us in S-bahn right away. "Drecksfotzen jungä, scheiss araber wichser, wir scheissen auf euch alle" etc We just laughed at it, he was drunk so he was not inhibited in speaking but it provided us with a window to the berliner mind. Oh well, welcome to Berlin.
"Just came back from a 7 day vacation in italy. The people smiled all the time. They were helpful. When I asked a shop lady if she sold stamps, she told me that no, but there's a post office, it's closed on sundays, but it opens at 7 am on mondays. If this happened in Berlin, I would either just get a cold stare or a "Nein." Nothing else."
In Germany it is polite not to say more than questioned. But there are also germans who give you much more information than you wanted to have. As if such people think you are not able to think for yourself.
At the pharmacy: "Do you know how to take that pills? Swallow it with some water" "Thanks" I was about to put it in my nose and would have wondered why the pills are not working." :)
Latin Europeans are usually much friendlier, though not always (like if they feel their city is overrun with tourists). Too bad they were all conned by Germany into the Euro, so now they can't control their own economies and have lost a lot to the Germanic countries, not to mention Germany forcing them into austerity with absolutely no sign it's working as they claimed it would (maybe it's working how they actually want, somehow benefiting Germany).
Still, if you can find a decent job in one of those countries (mainly Spain, Italy, Portugal), may be worth considering. Besides the people being friendlier, the women are more feminine and attractive, the weather is better aside from a few brutal weeks in the summer, the languages are easier to learn (if you speak English or another Latin language), etc. Everywhere has its own issues though.
"In Germany it is polite not to say more than questioned" - well, in a lot of other places it's impolite to give people only half an answer. Imagine this - you're in NYC, around Columbus Circle and you ask me "which way is Battery Park?" and I just point south - "that way", but I omit telling you it's a 2+ hour walk. Or same situation, but you ask my how to get to battery park - what if I just say "take the subway" - how will you know which one of 8 different lines to take? People wouldn't call that polite, they'd call it malice. It's normal to recognize an outsider and assume that they don't know much about a place and give them a little extra info. To take your example - if a 30-something someone comes in and asks for pills, it's stupid to tell them that you have to take them orally. But if a child runs inside and asks for something, it'd be normal to explain to the child some details (yes I know, this is a strained example). In both examples it's good to assume that the person doesn't have the full information and a little extra info will help them out.
But I also get the thing with folks here saying too much. I don't get it too. When you need the information, it's withheld, but when you don't need it - the person will talk your ear off for 20 minutes.
I think your choice of the word "Malice" is perfect and very astute.Much of the behavior and undercurrent of Berlin is laced with spite.I tried to understand where this comes from for many years.Then decided it wasnt worth spending my sensibility on these people.I got the next plane out. Some causes are not worth the effort.Berlin and its inhabitants are one of them.
Especially older native Berliners are so full of passive aggression towards immigrants. No matter what is your country of origin, language, religion, ethnicity, you will be despised by them. One could say they are equal opportunity bigots. Funny thing is that with their nonexistent fertility, they need foreign workers much more than most of us need them. Maybe it is just better to let their economy, real estate market and welfare system collapse in lack of people who could contribute. I have left already but I will come back in 20 years to see if their attitude has changed even a little.
This city has so little to offer, that place 33 in the book "111 Orte in Berlin die man gesehen haben muss" is a fooking Traffic Island with rabbits on
I've been posting here every Oct 7th for the past 3 years. What is special about today? It's the day I left from the city. I had to come here, to this site, every year to vent all the past awful experiences in the city. But now I finally feel all the venom of the city has left my system. I feel renewed, full of pep and obviously wealthier compared to when I lived in Berlin. This is going to be my last post and the only thing I have to say is, Berlin stole 4 years of my life and 3 other years of "complete readjusting" to a healthy society where I now live in. All the time I spent "integrating" to Berlin was wasted, a complete waste of time, energy and money - I urge everybody who feels Berlin is draining off your life, please leave the city now. Life is significantly better away from that place.
I've moved out of Berlin about 2 weeks ago and to be fair I miss Berlin but on the other way around I feel more connected to reality than ever before. Before was easy, with 300€ you would pay your rent and that was it, you would just pass a month dwelling around (I'll not start complaining about everything, but most of you get the picture I saw when you wander around town) and wondering when things would go my way, now I'm in a town far out the spectrum of hipster attention and it's quite good, it's just as crazy as the time I moved to Berlin
I feel the same way, moved away from Berlin 3years ago. I check out this site every week or so to remind myself that I made the Best Decision. I dont want to imagine the person I could have become by staying in that miserable place and in a miserable relationship. As the poster above; I too have missed certain aspects of the city...BUT what I miss are only European traits; the calmness, the locality, walkable streets and fresh foods. Berlin as a whole...RUN, run away and never return!! That city is a monument to a very bad Decision, and like all Monuments, it only has Posthumous Value. The few positive things I gained from my 3years there...is a stronger and more confident sense of Purpose and Self. For this, I am thankful.
If you are stuck there, for whatever reasons, be strong. Remember who you are despite Berlin and its lost inhabitants. Dont ever let it be your Absolute. Keep moving.
Indeed, I'm thankful to Berlin for the fact that when I've moved I was quite "green" to real life challenges (ie: Language that I don't speak, paperwork that I never heard about, having self-confidence to deal with all the BS around it) and now I have the self confidence, I moved to a town somewhere in Ireland where it's completely different from continental Europe and there aren't direct flights to Berlin nor my hometown so somehow I got away from people from where I come from and Berliners. If there is something that I can tell you about it is that I feel ready now, now the grass is greener and I'm again alone in search for a true purpose in my life. This is way crazier than Berlin was because now it's up to me to do something and the against-all-the-odds Berlin was.
Cheers
May I join you in a hearty vomit. Especially on her tidy apartment,50 euro bicycle and melancholy she suffers now the zing has gone from her days in the park.(Ohh..la la..Dope smoke) And an earnest sunset by the Spree. Once again I vomit in unison with others who have the misfortune to read this load of puke below. Bile a plenty.x
She should try this on for size:
phillewisblog.wordpress.com/2016/04/03/an-african-american-in-berlin/
Sorry, no, she's just trying to make herself feel better about coming here, trying to explain it away using "magic". I've been here almost 2 years and yeah, I have a thick skin, but it fookin bothers me that total strangers will suddenly attack you, verbally or physically (I even got pushed off my bike last week, what the flying fook?). This is not ok. This is wrong. This is bad. This place, these people, they are all poisoned. I won't waste my life changing them, Im getting the fook out of here. But please don't excuse abuse and hostility by saying that hey, it's a "thing" here and that you "get used to it." Sure, people also get used to domestic violence, doesn't mean it's ok.
You the Germans opened your country because EU benefited your economy. You popularized the Berlin dream. The mecca for expats. The mecca for european start ups. You treat your expats with poor bureaucracy and xenophobia. no wonder your own people hate you for your incompetence. Who invites millions of refugees when your own elderly go through garbage for.08-.25 cent a pop?
There was a news article about 3 german people who said how bad Germany has become due to all the foreigners. The first one was an old man who owned a company that went under and now lives off of hartz iv - he said that he wants to kill himself because he doesnt have enough money for beer at a beer garten or to go on vacation. Then there was a married couple that said that it's not right that raising a child should cost as much as a car, that the government should give more money, because they have 4 children and they want another one and how come children are expensive? They can only go on "cheap vacations" like going to the lake or denmark. Then there was a 30 year old "student" also living off of hartz iv because he majored in something like feminist throat singing literature studies and his gripe was that he cant book cheap tickets earlier to go to the bahamas because the unemployment office cant schedule his visits precisely when he wants them. Get it, a 30 year old man, unemployed, bitching and moaning that he cant take a vacation from already being on vacation (paid unemployment).
I cannot handle this city anymore. My body and mind are having a strong counter response to Berlin. Winter in Berlin is my nightmare. I hope I do not die from alcohol poisoning. When I feel this way, I have to restrain myself from hitting people who just absolutely LOVE this city. Good luck and brace yourself for the winter. Stock up...
Alcohol and narcotics are the only saving graces in Berlin. Which is why so many people find solace and respite from disrespect and torture from this sick and soulless city. Their is simply no choice for the majority of people who live in Berlin. I dont have a German passport..So I got the fornicate out of Dodge.
The drugs and club life that resonate to the mighty core of this city. I love Berlin, but what I have witnessed this "darkside" do to friends and acquaintances makes me despise this environment it provides for people searching for themselves. Berlin is a 90's teenager trying to find it's identity: The 4 day club weekend/no consideration for responsibility mentality still swinging like the increasing number of cranes that flourish the city. My wish for Berlin is to keep it's freedom, while leaving behind this darkside. Although I feel that's not what most of its inhabitants want. Therefore I believe my time is ticking before i leave this place and onto the next adventure.
" When they bump into with a stranger, they have no idea what to talk about. Except school or work. They can not hold meaningful, profound conversation. "
The reason behind this attitude is predictable. The German culture Is based on success. Being successful at school and / or work is the most important thing in that culture. They actually can hold conversations about other topics but at the first place they want to learn who is more prosper in the life ? ( I know sounds silly but this is the truth ) So, if they find out you are more successful they respect you somehow otherwise they start preaching.
It even happens with german in laws. My german sister in law is the perfect example. She ONLY talks to me about my professional plans in a sarcastic tone. Germans like her have no idea how to hold a small talk or even a meaningful conversation with a foreigner except inquiring about my INTEGRATION process.
I am not integrated enough yet in their superior nation to consider me as a human being with a personality.
I actually confronted her about it and she could only say that I am not trying hard enough to integrate.
Family communication should not always be a painfully bureaucratic integration interview.
Hello, I am the same person who has written that long post and also this one. ( There is no editing function unfortunately )
I understand you completely. That's why I said, there is no way to deal with their weirdness. The problem does not belong to you. I will tell you a story which is completely true and happened in the past two years. In Germany, there are too many language learning advertisements. They try to urge you to learn German. ( Which is understandable ) ( Die Sprache spielt wichtige Rolle zum Integration ) So, you have been learning the language and you need some practise. THIS IS TRUE STORY brace yourself. I have a friend who has been living in Germany more than me ( 5 years ) She ( Canadian master student ) is struggling to learn German but during our discussions we ended up like '' Okay, maybe we have to try harder '' So, she decided to show up at parties more and meet some German people. Anyways, She told me that, ''I have met a German guy and at the beginning, I was talking German, then we switched to English.'' I asked why, and her answer was : '' He told me that, he can speak better German than me so, he wanted to switch to English '' I have just written the truth. So, those weirdos can tell you that, they can speak their native language better than you. So, being able to speak German would not change anything. I was also hopeful about possible change after being fluent in German. Just no.
By the way, I do not want to integrate into their society. I mean, why would I ? What that society offers except money ? My opinion is just focusing on money. What means integration according to Germans ? I have no idea. I mean, we ( I think most of us on this website ) are educated, we can speak nice English, we won't do anything illegal. So, what they want us to more to integrate ? I PERSONALLY DO NOT CARE ANYTHING RELATED WITH GERMANS, GERMANY. My only motivation is money. I suggest you to ignore that society as well, and find some foreigners to spend some time together.
I feel the same way as you. I focused on money at first and ignored the Germany's problem with foreigners till I married a German. You fall in love with a German who is an exception to the rule and you feel forced to stay because of strong attachment. I got laid with many German men but I never had close relations to them till I got married to a German. Now, I understand how the German family works and I cannot stand it. There is not open sympathy and often you feel like a stranger even if you try to learn their language. I wish I could leave soon.
Family makes everything harder because you cannot just ignore the issue. You have to show up with a proud smile and stay polite no matter how much they try to get to you via their passive aggressiveness because you love your partner and want to build a life together.
Integrating into a German family will bring many many tears. You have to be strong and not take everything too seriously to heart especially the German superiority complex.
My poor parents gave me a modest monetary gift for my wedding, but the German parents did not even congratulate me with greeting card or in person. It was so awful. Who the fornicate do they think they are? They are not the superior race to make me feel like I was the mistake their son made. I cried for weeks as weak loser not because of them but because i have to integrate with heartless and senseless people like this who pretend to be the best nation.
My parents accepted and congratulated this marriage despite the German biggest mistake of killing a bunch of "non Germans" yet the GERMAN parents do nada not even a verbal congrats and good wishes. Some german families might be different, but many of them do not accept their pure GERMAN child marrying a foreigner with open arms. They make you beg to be accepted by them. I cannot wait what happens when I get pregnant from their pure german wunderbar.