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www.reddit.com/r/berlin/comments/nctezp/its_feeling_more_and_more_like_its_time_for_me_to/
what is life after berlin like? I am still getting mine together, but I cant tell if its from the coronavirus or what...
It gets better. I found it strange for the first three months. I moved back to my home country and it felt like my friend's lives had progressed and mine hadn't. After six months, things were back in place. I bought a new place and got a new partner who thank god was normal. It's been five years and I still think of my times in Berlin. My only fond memories are things that could be achieved by simply booking an Easyjet flight to some European city. I remember Templehof, the nights in Berghain, and the casual drug taking/cheap booze. All of this can be achieved in a single weekend, you don't need three years to do this.
Yes, of course. I only stayed two years in bErlin but after the first year I realized something was very wrong. Once the novelty wore off and I realized everyone had been partying as hard as I did in the first year or actually harder for not only one year, but five years, or a decade. That’s when I really felt disturbed.
Berlin killed my sexual desires. I’m completely asexual and don’t want any relationship with people here, let alone locals.
I guess it’s what Berlin does to people that refuse to do drugs and like common sense
Germans are just like robots..They are so into sex but so unhealthy and boring way.When you go to holiday to Thailand or somwhere majority who is so crazy for prostutuion is Germans.No wonder why.Sick sex addictors and sick mental.No wonder why there are just grumpy old grandpas and granmas.
"Why Berlin makes our brain shrink." If there is any brain left in these people.
I still wonder what he meant with culture.
www.dw.com/en/berlin-24-7-is-berlin-making-us-sick/a-40910009
found those lines in a forum, and I think they could fit well here:
"These´s alot of stereotypes about germans. Rude, robotic, cold. Are they true? Yes. Simple as that. Every time i came back from the US I had to prepare myself for the lack of manners and rudeness, only to be shocked by the fact that they are even ruder than i anticipated. Despite being born there, i´ve never gotten used to it. You´ve been warned."
For a Country that had such a Big population (81+ Mil) it is really a pathetic Country.
Nothing really Important comes from this country and most people seems to be broken or are just virtue signallers.
So the housing situation and competition on the rental market has become so bad, that applicants send in application videos, cover letters or bribe the landlord…without words.. this place is so finished
I’ve made an absolute killing on real estate over the last 10 years. It was never about the rental yield, but the marketing of this city. The rent freeze was even just a minor blip.
I started off with an apartment in Pankow bought just shy of €90k which now rents for €1.3k pm. Since I started, I’ve acquired six and now most of them are almost payed off. My portfolio has basically trebled in value and I pretty much don’t need to work soon. I’m very tempted to acquire more since I still feel the market is still undervalued.
To anyone who can afford to buy a place. Just do it but not in Berlin. All major capital cities are expensive due to easy access to money for folks who earn ok money.
Undoubtedly it's still growing but the bureaucracy is a pita and I can only see prices doubling in the next 10-15 years. Honestly, just invest in any place where all the young alternative people are moving into. If it was 7-5 years ago, I would've invested in Porto or Leipzig. I'm now too old to know where the hip stuff is kicking off. Another good strategy is to invest in up and coming gay areas. They usually take an absolute dump of a neighbourhood and make it nice or make it into a party drug den. Both strategies = $$$.
Trying to get foreigners to hate where they are from and admit german superiority is something very particular to German society. These people never learn
"Oh but in Germany...something...we are the best". Get lost Hans! you lost two world wars and in the process created the most cursed capital city in the world. There's an energy which exists in every inhabitant, whether it's a forty year old techno zombie in a club filled with naked men or a former East German labourer. You all shoulder the burden of the past and it's visible on your faces and attitudes. Unfortunately you'd think such past atrocities would be learned from and a bit of humility would be adopted, however, they still hold onto their false sense of superiority.
0/0 for Germany, -10/0 for Berlin due to the ghosts of Hitler, 200k+ soldiers and 3k civilians. F* this place.
Berlin is really like “dating down” except for your future
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
I don't think you can edit. Anyway, don't delete, this is a worthwhile story to share. Go MGTOW, you'll never be happier. Modern women are trouble with a capital T. Selfish, narcissistic, crude, greedy, they don't even want to bond with their babies in their formative years, career comes first, they're egotistical, as you say, ruthless, users, gold-diggers, never satisfied, fickle, want everything their own way, use emotional blackmail, emotional torment etc etc etc etc. Be honest, if men didn't have procreative hormones rushing through their brains, why would any guy want to be saddled with an hysterical modern female. I fell into the trap myself, but now i've gone MGTOW I'm happy-as-Larry, I love every day of my life.
I am so sorry about your experience. Hang in there!
I am also in my own healing from dating a German man.
He seems such a sweetheart at first, only to discover an insensitive selfish liar.
I still refuse to believe that he could be so low, but I guess that’s the denial stage of my process.
They are pathetic ...and traumatic, but I know once I am done, there no looking back twice.
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
Was in a relationship for almost 2 years with a German girl from Hamburg back home. I was happy, I was social, had lots of amazing friends. She was very attractive and the absolute image of a female body that I've always searched for. I fell in love with her but I was blind to so many major flaws that came to haunt me later. She had no sense of humour, knew nothing about art and film, below average in bed, super dry, not affectionate, she had no way of expressing emotion or possibly she had none, the list goes on. She was hardworking and focused on her career, that's freaking about it. And apparently comes from a high-class family back home. When she got accepted into a school in Copenhagen, she dumped me in the most pathetic ways. I couldn't have imagined someone I fell in love with turned to be as ruthless as she was, a senseless person with no emotions to guide their decisions. Everyone around us was in shock. I was so broken up that I decided to move to Berlin to be in her country and possibly connecting in some stupid way, aside from finding a good job and being a travel lover. All my hip friends back home made Berlin a utopian city. I have spent the majority of my stay in Berlin during covid. I have no friends, I can't make friends, and to tell you the truth I don't even want to be a friend with them anymore. I have never lived or imagined a place so unfriendly, lacks basic human connection to such a degree. I'm so defeated and isolated. Partly got stuck because of Corona and having a decent job, where I failed to make a single real friend. My coworkers are weird to unimaginable degrees. They don't understand the concept of socializing after work. Berlin is weird man. There's nothing I can't quite shake off. Possibly WWII runoff of misery. I went to a dating app total tare, gone through tens and tens of dates. Either meeting depressed expats or so many German women. I just couldn't click with any of them. It's so fucked. They have no sense of humour, no playfulness. I just don't freaking care you're on time and you are hard-working, it means nothing to me. I'm tired of pretending rough sex is cool, the clubbing culture is edgy and hot. It was all a freaking waste. I hate it. Yes, there are lots of good people here and lots of advantages for being in Germany, but when I got to sleep, my heart says fornicate it just go home. SO I AM!!!!!!
I realized that my ex wasn't a one-off, there is an entire city that resembles her utter misery.
It really doesn't matter. It's just a general perspective.
Actually this is mot why I hate Berlin.But the horrible relationship with my Geman Ex.I met this German Ex at my workplace as my colleague.We lived together and we talked about making family.But when I got eventually pregnant,he changed his mind and left me.He was even very angry because he is too young to be a father,he is 26years old,and paying the Alimony for 18years.What????
Then he blocked me and behaved just passive aggresive. We made no conact at all since November at my 6weeks of pregnacy.But in February he sent me an Email and said
"I am so sorry.I was immature.I want to raise our baby in love.Lets love each other in a different way as our child's parents..Please contact me back".
For the baby's sake I contacted him back.
But again he was passive aggressive as before,we had an arguement at the end of March and he blocked me again.
And last week I received a message from his mother(yes his mother.not from him directly)She said
"My son is in a relationship now and his new partner.She gave birth a son 2weeks ago.They are family already and live together already.He will adopt this son too.Therefore please consider to register your baby as Father unknown because my son is not interested in you and the baby anymore.He has new family now and happpy.Your baby will not be haapy to have a father who is not interested in her and ignore her".
What do you think and can you understand any of them ?and any part of this situation???
Duck that old german bitch!! This is absurd!
A baby is not a disposable and something you lose interest into like an old toy!
This female dog even pretends she knows what would make your baby happy!
Like they freaking know everything!
I am sorry for ranting, this is a situation that must be difficult as hell and I am sorry you are going through it.
This is all up to you now, not her and frankly not even him it seems. Although misery will hunt the crap out of him until rest of his days for abandoning his child like this, I am telling you!
Now think about yourself and the baby‘s benefit. As a single mom you will get a better settlement with the authorities, I‘d think, probably more support than counting on this asshat.
Also, consider if you want him in your life, your kid‘s life or not.
Frankly, you can still find a loving partner and have a beautiful life with someone else for yourself and the kid. He doesn’t have to be a toxic piece of crap forever Push-Pull in your life like that.
Take this decision based solely on what you think it’s best and what you want for you kid.
The old hag cares about his offspring not to be legally bonded and forced to pay alimony, I‘d rather say... more than anything.
But if it’s a better deal/support for the kid, squeeze the poop out of him, under his mother’s loving eyes.
Anyhow... fornicate that bitch. Do what you feel it’s best! Focus on thing that actually matter: You, the baby.
Thanks a lot .You know my due date is end of June And the mother of his Ex has four kids.She should have known how I feel if I heard this.The father of my baby is happy with his new partner and her new born son...If the want to keep it secret why now??If they want to tell it.Again why now? Why not earlier and ehy contacted me??And he is 26.What is doing both of them.I had a baby from 16years old boy or what??I am so devastated...
I did.Idid.Well it was good in the end because I could see that he would be abuse my baby because I saw how he react when I told him I am pregnant.But I nevee expected he and his family would do such a thing to me.Yes find new woman(while he said he is too young to be a father started dating a pregnant woman who at least in her 5months of pregnancy ?)and yes his mother.Like Typical Germans.No empathy and actes as if she knew everything what is best for my child because they are Geeman and in Germany this might be "Normal"..
most of german famiies are disfunctional.I don't rhink my mom will act like that if her son is acting like the Ex.And always This Geizig...Germans..Not want to pay Alimony..And yes Kindeegeld until 25 so he still acring like Kind...
Fxxking shit!!!!, these people in Germany are completely 100% insane. As one poster said make sure you keep all the emails as proof. Fxxk him and his mother. What man has his mother speak for him, anyway? Don’t fall to the emotions of pity but anger and retribution. Make sure without any hesitation you get that little punk for child support. Don’t worry, the Germans courts will be on your side for this one. The other poster is right you should cut off all communications with those fools. Your story has pissed me off!! These Germans are extremely wicked people they are capable of anything. I’m sick, I hate that I ever came to this place. Please hold strong and handle the situation for you and your child then move on from this experience.
I find die Mutter disturbingly psycho!
Don‘t reply to her, don’t bother giving her a reaction. That’s how these demons feed, when they can intimidate. Don’t offer that!!
For the sake of your own healing, get away from these psychos!! Get a legal agreement in the child’s best interest, and cut all emotional aspect out of it. Reserve it for someone worth the time...
I wouldn't trust any woman in Berlin telling me she's pregnant with my baby, the first thing I'd ask for is a paternity test. Why the F did you get pregnant to a creepy German, FFS, that's what marriage is for, a bond, security, commitment. Young people these days are fvcked in the head, grow the fvck up and have some responsibility for your lives.
Not all divorced couples abandon their child. As a matter of fact, I personally believe that “sticking together” for the kids is a loooot worse than just going separately, civilized, and meet other people to be at best with. Also, the kid will know too, that you don’t have to put up with toxic relationships! Why is such a stigma, I don’t know. It’s the 21st century, let’s progress...
When a German does something you will not get an apology, the speech with go somehow: I am not pleazed vith diz, I feel nicht gut to hear, you must be vrong, I feel nicht gut, you are bad, you should apologise to mich now!! You: No, actually I am pointing out politely a situation that you caused. German: Na klar, then vi are beide bad!! No one, especially an äuslander can call me out! Ich mag das nicht. You make me feel nicht gut!
And theeeen... You will be the bad guy & the frickin‘ Fritz a victim... regardless if he almost smashed your skull open while trembling into you without caring.
This is a metaphor for all interactions that require an apologetic behaviour of any kind that inflicted either physical or emotional harm on another fellow human.
Haha.I am the who wrote about the horroble ex and his family Yes they are so.So true.
Adding to the below discussion "They also body slam you on road for an ego boost":
Yes they do!!!
And they love to do it to other Germans as well (I am half German NOT raised in Berlin).
I have experienced the aggressive mumbling thing 3 times within the last week, all times dressed a little "above Berlin average" (which in this place means outfits like a coat, simple sunglasses, or a dress).
One of those who mumbled was a guy clearly on drugs, one a girl my age and one a girl with her bf. Although I speak German I didn't get what they all said but I got that it was no greeting, no sorry for standing in your way or no have a nice day (doubt if anyone here ever says that lol).
The girl clearly started whispering her sentence saying "She ..." as soon as our ways crossed so yes whatever this f* w* said was about me.
It happened to me so many times I am so sick of it!!!