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I’m trying to understand why people are so broken and mean. There must be a set of reasons
Well. I had 2 job options: Germany or Balkans. Chose Balkans. Ppl here mind their own business and the food is much better too. 100 x less hassle than Germany or German speaking countries. No thanks to that. I made the mistake of living in Berlin 2x - never again. I do not see why they spend so much effort luring expats with jobs, when they actually hate them.
What? :) You say you got a job, so was it hard to get one or not? Probably not, I just don't get the act about it. I mean if you wouldn't know, you would have mentioned that despite you finding a job, you still don't know. I just don't like this pessimistic note you ended on. But I see, you don't wanna have anything to do with someone going there and then it doesn't work out and I just don't see what that would have to do with you? :) It was the most innocent question to ask.
How can you convince someone to leave Berlin?
Take them to Kottbusser Tor or Moritzplatz at night. Take them to an ü40 party. Tell them to look at where all their friends from before Berlin are at in their lives and compare. Make them spend a week with Germans. Challenge them to a week of sobriety.
Berliners and Germans in general are human garbage. Might be brutal, but this is horrendous. This society and mentality needs to perish from the face of planet Earth in 2020.
Unacceptable behaviour, unacceptable ideas.
Primitive low-lives.
In general I have noticed a LOT of German men who just seem to meander around without action having any goal in mind. Just randomly standing around and leering at groups of people or drinking beer alone in the parks. Probably a ticking time bomb that will either rape children or attack a random foreigner eventually. These people are all sick
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1) Fake or no friends. 2) Institutional racism everywhere (have make a call at the Arbeitsamt hotline for my Ausbildung, waited for a whole week then called up again, and another employee told me that the inquiry was not forwarded, guess my name is not german to be taken so seriously :( ) 3) weird people looking you persistently and when you look back at them, they either smile or looking elsewhere (mind games?) 4) pretentious hipsters 5) if you wear a Dragonball Z or something that is not so Berlinish, you will be mobbed (better walk naked with a sexual toy somewhere in Alex) 6) Coworkers that know better than you (thats what they think) but take no advice from you, or mobbing you (especially 50+ year old women) 7) passive aggressive people ready to devour you at the next second 8) always finding ways to blame you... thank God im abandoning this place in 3 days!!! :D advice: DONT COME!!! night life due to Corona is dead. Investors who are buying appartments and renting to rich kids (no way you can afford it even with 2000 salary). Just stay away.
When expats say they moved to Germany because it seems like a good place to raise a kid I really can't help but wonder what exactly they mean. Do they mean it seems like a place where raising a child is easy because the government takes over starting at 6 weeks and doesn't stop until the kid is like 25? Do they mean it's good because someone else is going to be paying the bill for the kid forever? Do they mean it's a good place because, unlike most other western nations, here they kind of just sweep sexual assaults, physical abuse, paedophilia and human trafficking under the rug and pretend it isn't a problem? Do they mean it's good they won't have to worry about if their kid is out drinking and doing drugs and having casual sex because in Berlin they can be 100% sure that their kid is doing all of those things? What do they mean? They will never be more specific when I ask.
the Postal system...
The notes that come saying we tried but you weren't in. Where was I Stefan? I was working from home the whole day... and you decided to not knock on my door Stefan. So now I need to traipse over to an old-fashioned hell-hole known as a post-filiale and queue with the other mugs for half an hour, and be barked at by Ursula that they haven't got my package and to come back tomorrow...and repeat process. Love German efficiency. Lying, lazy, petty prigs.
Try sending something to another country. I wanted to send a small parcel to the UK and it tool me almost two weeks to finally get the task done. Either the parcel shop only accepted parcels send withing Krautcountry, or they didn’t take card payments unless you have a german EC card, or their online system didn’t work, or or or. I cannot believe how broken up the whole process was.
"Didnt realise how much people can lie over petty things. They lie so much that they actually start to believe it themselves."
OMFG the worst is when companies claim they cannot do anything because of DATENSCHUTZ! I was recently at the customs office to pick something up (because Germany's duty-free limit is a pathetic 25EUR) and the lady in front of me was saying that he parcel was there but that she didn't have the document anymore that said she needed to pick it up and the man working there claimed he couldn't help her because of DATENSCHUTZ. What a freaking joke, protecting my data from ME? What a bunch of Kafkaesque nazi bitches.
its just no use getting pissed off about Beamte its no good for your health. At the beginning i used to get riled up and offended but the sad truth is none of the strict rigid rules here will change no matter how much you get emotional about it. That is probably why germans are as they are: they have resigned themselves to the fact they have no power. It is dangerous to stay here too long because then you also start to become a braindead sheep too.
The only time I want to be back in Berlin is when the police finally beat the sshit out of the AntiFa fascist thugs in RigaerStr. I'll pay good money for a front row seat to watch them beat these laft-wing imbeciles to a pulp with their trusty batons.
One thump for each car they've burned in Borelin and two extra thumps for all the peaceful conservative protesters they've beaten while these pathetic cowards wearing balaclavas, it won't be long, their karma is slowly catching up on them.
So far the police are too scared of catching a disease off them. All that is going to change soon.
I feel super depressed thinking about my time in Berlin. I’m gone now but I feel I wasted 2 years of my life there and another 6 months in another country making money to go back to sell my things and get out. That’s a total 2.5 years. At no point did I make financial gain, i became in debt. I struggled with literally everything. I didn’t find love. My career took a worse turn because nobody wanted to pay me.
How can I recover from this? I feel like such a loser lmao
It’s never too late to start anew. Do your research and choose a country where you can recover. You’re not a loser. Berlin is a hellhole and everyone of us has written how you can’t make any money, because Berlin takes everything from you through taxes and low pay. Your money, your soul, your ambition, it takes everything. So it’s not your fault. Just go somewhere else and start anew
I felt the same way as OP. I made my escape 9 months ago, and it wasn't until three months ago that I came to terms with what happened when I lived there. I didn't go into debt but my savings took a big hit, as did my mental health. I didn't find love either and gave up on the idea not long after arriving in Germany. Everything seemed extremely difficult there and this is true even accounting for the fact that we are contending with a new language.
I mean feel as you do, while with music it really is this expression because it comes up and just sorts of happens. What would you need? A guitar, few chords, songs you like, and then just strum away 1/8th notes gonna do it too. You think you can't sing? Don't bother, feeling feels good, you won't notice it and likely sounds alright also.
Berlin really sucks but once you leave you realize how it sucks even more
The so called start up scene is complete joke: Delivery Hero, Lieferando , Zalando, Auto 1 and all these poop up companies with no real value, ran by a bunch of clowns and wankers!
These people are like robots. They can't operate when they see something which they are not used to. I find this so funny. I live in an apartment where there is a dedicated park places for all people. Each person has Its own dedicated park spot as well (not officially but It is kind of custom). Actually, It has been recently extended and there are currently more places to park than people who live in the apartment.
Anyways, just recently a German person who entered the park place and saw, her place is occupied by another car. What do normal people do ? Look for another place to park because there are actually other spots. What did this German do ? She was passive aggresively honking like crazy multiple times, looked so stunned and did not know what to do.
I observe the same behaviour from Germans at work place as well. When they encounter with something which is different than what they have been doing regularly, they become so confused and can't function at all.
They are so dumb. Once I saw a German who was stunned a car didn't slow down when he was 5m from one of those zebra crossing things that he threw a ties up bag of dog poop at the car but with like a 10 second delay so it was obvious it was nowhere close to hitting it. Then that idiot walked over and picked it back up.