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Even Sierra Leone looks pretty when the son is shining. Berlin looks uglier than on cloudy days. With son you can clearly see the dirty unhappy people and buildings. lol
I am from the UK and having lived here several years I was always wondering why I clashed with Germans. I realised I can't undo what I have been brought up and learnt to possess:
Here is a list of qualities most (98%) Germans/Berliners do not have:
Inference, hinting, the art of seduction, nuance, irony, self-deprecation, being considerate, spontaneity, sensitivity, empathy, selflessness.
When we were kids we were taught by adults the above qualities.
An italian once said to me Germans are like children. Now I know what he meant. They are like the lost boys in Peter Pan. Yet these 'kids' have bittnerness and jealousy. Berlin ain't never never land!
What you wrote is exactly what I thought after having sevra realtionship with German guys.Of course I am not expecting he sacrifice his life or everything for me.But you know what it is...I leave Berlin.This is my last month here.I think it takes time to get recovered but glad that I could leave before it is too late.Become one of German is the scariest.thing.
why is everyone so obsessed with Berlin, you can't even make one criticism of the city without them taking everything personally.
is it because they don't want to be reminded that it's complete poop and their lives are falling apart? honestly I try to improve my life by leaving and say what the poop is there and people delete me and try to make it like I'm the problem for why it didn't work out. Except when I look at my life BEFORE Berlin I actually had my poop together so.....wtf
Go to r/Germany or r/Berlin and ask about anything in Germany or Berlin and watch the ensuing shitshow. Just ask something completely neutrally like "Is it true that you have to have health insurance in Germany?" or "Is it true that you can get welfare forever in Germany?" or "Is it true that Germans eat raw meat?" and you'll see a flood of angry Germans and expats who completely lose their shit. These people are the most sensitive babies I have ever seen in my entire life. Ask critical questions about any other country (except perhaps the Scandinavian ones) and you'll get a sea of support. Germans are really dumb.
Regarding to welfare. I totally understand why these scumse live forever on welfare. Look how their government is fuckinng them up every month. Extremely high taxes. They HAVE to have a health insurance. Again taxes for taxes. If I would be them I would fornicate this state as well.
Shithole
Its seriously disgusting though how seemingly "normal" people have been on harz IV for years and years. There is no need for any adult who is not seriously ill to be sitting round at home all day and getting paid for it. It really takes the piss out of all of us who work our arses off the whole time.
But how do they manage it though? Do they just purposely write crap applications or apply to stuff they'll never get so they can prove it at the job center? Surely there must be a limit on how long you can get benefits. Like you are too useless to even be worth supporting kind of thing?
If you're an Ossi and above 45 they just let you stay on welfare. I am 99% sure it is because the GDR purposely drugged people back then to give them brain damage but that the government can never admit to that. We know they drugged athletes in the GDR without their consent and if you have ever met anyone from the East, especially men, you'll knownwhat I mean with brain damage. Definitely something way off with all of them.
Yeah i never used to understand why they always went on about "Schweigen" and the difficulty of saying things during our German degree. I was like just say it what's the big deal. But here people are very aware of the exact words they are saying and what they are omitting. They present a carefully crafted version of themself. Which ok everyone technically does but here it is more extreme. Its almost as if Germans, at least East Germans, dont have a natural self.
Old habits die hard. For Ossis, choosing the wrong words could mean going to prison for a long time. Or losing a job and getting a worse one. Or no chances to get to a certain university. The list goes on. I don’t blame them for that, but I do blame them for being grumpy, weird and living on welfare eternally
@"Surely there must be a limit on how long you can get benefits." No. A minimum standard of living is guaranteed by the constitution. This is the original universal basic income. But people from the EU and other foreigners cannot just turn up and apply.
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To German girls have orgasms because the German guy I was seeing after I came I looked down and he just had this blank look on his face. It was freaking creepy. As well as he complained when I wore lingerie. I thought he was gay but maybe just German? I mean German girls do they not own lingerie unless it’s some PVC harness or some shit? Seriously
I had a 6 year relationship with a German. It must have broken me up as I haven't been able to be intimate with anyone for over 3 years now.
Hi fellow Berlin haters! My german boyfriend and I broke up (for many differents reasons) and although it's painful I'm kinda relieved because it was the very last thing still bonding me to this country (I left a few months ago) and it feels weirdly good to be able to leave behind this part of my life for good. But I feel guilty for this relief, what are your thoughts? Have any of you gone through a similar situation? More generally, does any of you feel like your 'hate' towards Germany affects (or affected in case it's over) negatively your feelings and relationship with a german partner? It would help me a lot to have some insight on this! I feel bad that the nationality/culture & language barrier played such a huge part in my decision to let this person go.
Yeah, of course my hatred of Germany negatively affected my relationship with Germans. I mean, at the beginning I tried to convince myself that the prevailing cultural norms in a country have nothing to do with the individual people but then I realized that thinking that was pretty stupid and desperate. The things I hate most about this country apply the people who live here and - and this is the important part - it applies to ALL OF THEM. Don't feel bad about it - this culture is so messed up that relationships here aren't even meant to last anyway. If you were outside of Germany and still pretending a long-distance relationship was going to work out then you were only deluding yourself. Your boyfriend was probably cheating on you anyway, especially if he was a Berliner. Never feel sympathy for Germans - they aren't worth it.
No the thing is, we were about to move together to another EU country (neither his nor mine - the idea was to be on neutral ground so to say), we had both found jobs and everything - then corona happened, but even this way it would have been too complicated and challenging
Thank you for sharing, I'm glad I am not the only one who feels that way.
We're constantly bombarded with the idea that people are equal and that we're all the same and that all cultures are basically the same with minor differences, which is a bald-faced crock of shit. Don't feel guilty about despising a certain people or culture.
Anybody lived in Bremen? How was that? I know, the more north, the colder are people.
Something something "directness".
Something something "not wasting your time".
No, dipshit, your inability to communicate basic facts is not a sign of moral superiority. It's the sign of a mental disorder.
"Someone should teach Germans that you can be straightforward and clear about your intentions while still being polite."
It is called diplomacy, of which they sorely lack.
Inference, hinting, the art of seduction, nuance, irony, self-deprecation, being considerate, spontaneity, sensitivity, empathy, selflessness, ... all missing here.
9 out of 10 Germans that do go anywhere always run back home after a few years to the safety of the Sozialamt. They then tell everyone how pooping and backward the country they couldn’t adapt to, supposedly is. German guys also like to claim that all foreign women are basically whores who only want to wed them to get a chance to come here. Delusional
Can't count the number of timws I have heard that German men/women are highly desired in foreign countries. Claimed by Germans. These people are too stupid to realize that when foreigners pretend to look up to Germany they're just trying to make small talk.
Diplomacy...more like tact. Germans lack tact. It's the difference between telling your girlfriend "yes, you're a total a fat person and need to lose weight" when she asks if these pants make her butt look big vs. saying "hey hun why don't we go work out together tomorrow? It'll be really fun if we do it together and maybe we can keep each other accountable."
Expats, Tourists, Travellers, hip districts, every single bar, restaurant, cafe, all the hyped up berliners who stare at everyone all the time, like they are constantly on some kid of event, and want me to look back, validating their pooping berlin-vibe. Everyone wih a music, box. Street musicians who turn up their amps so my ears burst, all the people who given them money for that. The non existence of free space. Everyone who lives here voluntarily. Everyone who moves here. Everyone who could leave, but doesn't. Every single party goer, pub crawler and fun haver. Each and every start up and artist and gallery and event location. Everything. It would be bad enough, without all the hyped new-berliners, what with no heating in public buildings, freezing tubes & S Bahn that only runs half the time & crazy Taxi drivers trying to run you over, just for fun - but then it would just be a pooping town, full of rude people & cultural clashes that make you go mad. But with that layer of hyperexited berlinophiles, who claim this overcrowded, awful place is the best place to be, and I'm ungrateful to be stuck here with no way out, I wish, daily, and sincere, though I would not do anything to further this happening, but I honestly wish this hell hole would just accidentally be nuked out of exstistence by someone pressing a wrong button somwhere and sending off a long forgotten H Bomb!
"pooping" Berlin vibe?? I didn't even write that - but sounds good! How the blast is there no editing function??
not seriously - they censor the "S" word?? Where are we? s h i t t y is a bad word? we are talking about berlin - that's a very genteel euphemism!
You didnt write pooping? Because Im seeing alot of this word and same words around on quite a few posts....I do hope most of these comments are individuals and not some paid person as I see alot of same writing style and vocab.....can anyone explain this ....or even notice....ps I love this site; everything is so so true.
i secretly upvote my posts here every time i visit this page
It's no real joking, you know what I mean. I was feeling like s.hit the other day. I got back home and I was like ok, that was it, but there was a neighbour with their bike. And I just felt so bugged. She said, can you leave it open quickly? And I got sarcastic: Of course. I felt truly bothered because people don't give a f.uck how you feel, they always talk to you the same way. She wanted to get her bike in the cellar btw. I added I can open the door too! And she still was all goody moody but rather confused about me. She said something like, not needed but not in a serious way and I said Well since I stand here, sarcastically. She tried to catch me I guess in a good way, she said I do that for quite few years, and I brainfarted a yes. Thing is she is older but she looks fit for her age and I just hated how this played out.
The customer services make you feel like you still live in 90s
The lack of social genuine connection to other people, be it friends, relationships or work colleagues.
I am definitely broken up mentally by now after 3 years and it shows a lot when I meet my old friends.
I am unconsicously desperate and needy, with no expectations or faith anymore.
hello all! did any of you have experience with self help groups (mental health/ illness) in Berlin? was it helpful?
lol as if I am going to meet up with a bunch of germans and discuss my problems - that would be like a mouse meeting up with a group of cats to air his grievances. if there were groups that were 100% non-german then maybe but how much proof does one need to collect that this country is pure cancer before leaving forever?
Oh, my god - the others are probably beyond help & hating Germans? Why on Earth do you live here, then, if we are all so awful!? Anyway, to the original poster: I haven't, but I know a person, who went to a group, which was quite useful, and I know, there must be many! I am pretty shure, there are enough expats in Berlin by now, who don't speak German, that you can find and English speaking group. Try googling for one? There are also a lot of meet ups (try meet up, or berlin meet up) and though some of these people probably have no great social skills, others may & perhaps they know more about the expat self help infrastructure.. If you do speak German, there must be a lot of different groups & you can try them out. I mean, self help groups are like other organizations & societies - they have websites & information evenings etc. where you can meet the people & get a feeling for the group! Take care of yourself, don't let anything bog you down unduly, especially now & especially in this big, at times rude town! <3